(Closed) Having second thoughts on my ring…

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Ring size

    I agree, looks smaller than actaully is

    No, It is great!

    Ask for a upgrade

    other- please explains!

  • Post # 46
    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I think that your ring looks beautiful on you, but you should be happy with your ring!!  I agree with what a previous poster said, if you love the stone get a different setting, a halo would really make it look a lot bigger.  Or have you considered a different gemstone?? White sapphire, moissanite… there are lots of beautiful alternatives out there that are affordable and you could get a size you’re comfortable with.  It’s your ring, and you deserve to be happy with it!

    Post # 48
    4108 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Although it does look smaller than it’s size from your pic, it’s honestly quite a beautiful ring regardless! I would give it more time to get used to, stop looking at huge diamonds on the net, then decide if it’s right for you… 

    Post # 49
    1993 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It’s a very pretty ring, and you have to ask yourself if you want that ring, the original ring he gave you, to be the one that you wear your entire life?  Or are you okay with doing the upgrade thing in a few years (A LOT OF PEOPLE go this route!)  If you are morally opposed to giving up your original ering, then I would look into seeing what it would cost to put a bigger diamond in it.  It’s something you have to wear your ENTIRE life!  I didn’t want to upgrade later, and so I made sure Fiance knew that.  But you need to see what the $$ is to upgrade – my center stone is 1.53 cts and there is a HUGE difference in price between 1 ct and 1.5ct.  If you and/or your Fiance can afford that difference, with impending wedding costs on the way, then you should absolutely go for it!

    But don’t go to him and make him feel like he did something wrong when he gave you what you asked for, unless you’re sure that you can afford the upgrade.  If you can’t afford the upgrade, or you don’t research the cost, then you will just hurt his feelings and he’ll spend every day feeling like you don’t love the ring that he probably sacrificed and saved for.

    Post # 50
    11 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think your ring is absolutely beautiful! The size seems to fit your finger perfectly 🙂  But you shouldn’t feel bad about wanting a bigger stone.  This ring will be on your hand every single day, so you should wear something that you absolutely love.  If the cost is no issue, why not go bigger?  Nothing to feel bad about – it is the engagement itself that means something.  The ring is just a symbol. 

    Post # 51
    841 posts
    Busy bee

    I do understand where you are coming from. I have size 8 fingers and with a 1 ct ring, it looks A LOT SMALLER (the only time it looks good on me is when my hands are really cold and shrink in size). No one can blame you for feeling this way, especially since you probably couldn’t try on the ring properly in the first place (most stock rings are between 5 and 7- size 7 is a rare find up here). If it is continuing to bother you, I would say something about it. As I said before, it isn’t anyones fault. And yes, it is a very beautiful ring 🙂

    Post # 52
    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I realize I already posted lol. Anyway it’s a nice ring :o)

    Post # 53
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Before you upgrade to a bigger stone, did you try it with different types of wedding bands?  Maybe that will make the decision a little easier?

    Post # 54
    764 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it does look smaller than a carat. I have a larger finger (7.5) and it’s just the nature of having larger fingers. I also think the sidestones may be contributing to it facing up smaller. If it’s exchangeale and it’s going to bother you exchange it. I suggest trying on various CZ bands to see how you’ll like it with a wedding band.

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