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Okay I will not mince words here. My Fiance, while obviously female, is very butch-identified. Not a girly bone in her body. Hasn’t worn a dress since 1st grade and wears men’s clothes daily. Her daily style is very casual, jeans and gap t-shirts and she’s never been much into fancy clothes but for the wedding she wants to go all out.
Naturally she decided she wanted a suit… but the thing is, she would prefer something along the lines of a men’s “morning suit” or a tux jacket with a tailcoat. Not the split tails thing and not satin lapels… but a “cutaway” or maybe a stroller (I think?)…
She likes the brocade vest (but probably in blue) and would wear the silk ascot and everything else.
The vest and ascot and shirt and even pants are not the problem. In fact, we already have her shirt (lovely, with French cuffs) and dress shoes and pants will be easy enough, even if we need to have some hemmed. The problem is finding a coat that is not going to make her look like a football player but I have searched and searched and just CANNOT find anything like this in women’s wear. It doesn’t need to be a feminine “cut” except no huge shoulders.
Having something custom made is simply not in our budget.
She is just not going to be able to wear a men’s coat… I wonder if an xl boys (like teen) would have the huge shoulders? In women’s sizes she’s about a 12/14. Fairly busty/curvy and short (5’2″).
Thoughts, ideas, suggestions, pretty please?
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Since men’s clothes aren’t really made for curves, I think it will be hard to find something ready-to-wear.
What about finding something at a thrift store that is slightly larger, then having it tailored? That should be much more economical, and probably comparable in price to a male renting a tux. If she finds something that fits Ok in the shoulders but is roomy in the chest and waist, having it tailored shouldn’t be a problem.
Good luck! I hope she finds something she feels proud to wear.
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That’s very classy. I do think you’re going to have to buy and alter a suit like this. I would talk to a seamstress or tailor who does high end clothes. They would be able to tell you how much mens suits can be altered for women’s curves. Then see if you can find a high end suit consignment store. Or a place like Jos A Banks that has big sales all the time.
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I would also talk to the people at a men’s suit store and a women’s to see if you could buy one and have it altered. I would think a woman’s fit would be easier to alter to give you a look than a man’s due to the curviness of a woman’s body.
I hope you find what you are looking for!
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I think you could get something tailored to fit. Men’s clothes will have broad shoulders and chests anyways and won’t fit very well. But I don’t see why they couldn’t nip the shoulders in.
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- Wedding: August 2019 - Oakland Manor
When we were looking for a suit we found that several stores offered free alterations (though I’m sure this was factored into the price). I was surprised to learn that most suits aren’t made to be warn off the rack! I would suggest Zara or Jcrew for a suit jacket-but I don’t think they have morning jacket styles.
Another option could be to check online uk stores because that tye of jacket is very popular for weddings. The exchange rate isn’t too bad, and you never know – you might find a store with good shipping! Ebay could also have several options.
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you’d think by now they’d make something like this for women!
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Has she actually gone to a rental store and tried on some tuxes?
I can’t recall the occasion( I think it was some kind of charity event), but a whole group of women rented tuxes and we didn’t have any trouble finding jackets to fit. There are lots of smaller men out there.
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Im wondering about http://www.indochino.com I know it’s all for men but they do the entire suit by custom measurements so it’s likely that they can customize for a female body based on her measurements. Just throwin it out there!
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Just wanted to thank everyone and say that we found a suit for her!! At a thrift store, no less. Women’s but totally not girly. And shirt and suit and vest, $25 total!
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MsInterpret, do you mind if I ask where you got her french-cuff shirt? My future hersband is looking like crazy for a french-cuff shirt in ivory, and is having a similar problem to your issue with the suit: we can only find the right shirt in men’s sizes, which won’t work for her body. Any advice? Thanks!
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@mundaetraversa: It’s a men’s shirt and we got it in a thrift store. I have seen women’s shirts with french cuffs but not sure where.. knowing me, probably ebay or similar. I rarely buy anything new. We would have if we hadn’t gotten lucky with her outfit of course. Sorry I couldn’t be more help but check ebay maybe? The men’s worked for her okay since it’s under a vest and jacket anyway.