Post # 1
Is it okay to make a big surprise out of announcing a second grandchild in the family? In my husband’s family, there will be one grandchild for his parents before we have one. That couple gets to have the big surprise and excitement of the first grandchild. I always wanted to make announcing our first a big deal and come up with a fun way to announce it to the parents but now I don’t know if it’s appropriate do that if it’s already been done for the first grandchild. I always thought we’d have ours first. Any thoughts or experiences you can share? Needing some support and understanding!
Post # 3
I don’t understand why it makes it any less special just because yours won’t be the first grandchild. Announce it however you want.
Post # 4
agreed. Announce your baby how you want to, I am sure his parents will love finding out they will get a new grandbaby!
Post # 5
@beth417: I thnk it is perfectly fine and that is what we plan to do!
Both sister and SIL are currently pregnant meaning we will not be 1st on either side but I def plan to make a big fun announcement when the time comes! 🙂
Post # 6
Of course you can make a big deal of it, you’re bringing a baby into the world! I’m sure they’ll be just as happy about having a second grandchild.
Post # 7
My future kids will be the only grandkids on either side of the family.
I’m marginally freaking the fuck out about it.
Post # 8
Of course it’s okay! My younger sister had my parents’ first grandchild and I still surprised them with the news (sent them flowers on Easter from me, Darling Husband, and BABY). They still cried when they received them. They also cried after I’d had spotting, got an ultrasound, and called to say baby was okay. I know they are just as excited about my little one as they were for the first. Also, it turned out that my baby is a girl, where my sister’s baby was a boy, so my baby will still be their first granddaughter. Not that it really matters, but I think that is kind of neat. 🙂
Post # 9
Hi – I say make a big deal about it because your first child is a huge deal!!! but just be aware of timing.
Ex: I wouldn’t make a huge announcement like 2 days after the other mom gives birth. I’d let her enjoy the glory for a little while.
Maybe that is just me…but I try to be cautious of being a big ol thunder stealer 🙂
Post # 10
Of course you can make a big deal out of it! The grandparents are going to be super excited to be getting a grandchild, whether it is the first or the tenth!
Post # 11
i know whatcha mean and how you feel. my SIL had a little girl three months early and she didnt make it. Father-In-Law said i really hope ashley (SIL) gets pregnant before you. thanks ? well she did and they now have a baby boy who is 2 weeks old. i am 31 weeks pregnant and my side of the family (my parents) couldnt be more excited, their first grandkid. Darling Husband side of the family doesnt really say much. i would do whatever makes you happy. this is your kid not theirs.
Post # 12
It had better be! We’ll probably have the second grandchild (and the third and last until FI’s much younger half siblings have kids) and it’s going to be a big deal! I doubt Future Brother-In-Law and is wife will have any more kids (she’s 36 and they had trouble conceiving the first one, plus they say all the time that one kid is “so hard” and they’re not having anymore, we shouldn’t have any, etc.).
Post # 13
We’re having the 3rd grandchild on both sides and still made a big deal of it. A grand child is exciting weather it’s the second or the twenty second!
Post # 14
I agree with announcing your baby. It is YOUR first and a very special event!
Post # 15
i agree with all the previous posters; make a big deal out of it! i’m pregnant with the first grandbaby on my side, but the fifth on DH’s; so i understand some of your feelings. however, i’ve decided that regardless of how many grandchildren they have, it’s your first baby and that makes it crazy special. they’re going to be so excited!