Having the wedding right after having a baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Just found out im pregnant! what to do about the wedding??
    Just elope now before baby comes : (46 votes)
    55 %
    Wait until after the baby and have Soon after : (20 votes)
    24 %
    wait till after the baby and a While after : (17 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think that’s do-able. Most people lose their baby weight fairly quickly, though maybe not all of it, if that’s what you’re concerned about. You can really do this however you want to. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m typing this with one hand as my 9-day-old infant nurses.  I can’t imagine planning a wedding while caring for a newborn, let alone attending a wedding with a newborn.  I would also think that having a baby will change your priorities.  What seems important to you now might become unimportant once your baby is here.

    Personally, if I were in your shoes, I might plan for a small ceremony for family and close friends only.

    Good luck and congrats!

    Post # 5
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Congratulations! I know it can be done (I have a friend who I ran into at the bridal shop picking up her gown, super showing and she got married when her LO was about 3-4 months old). I think you two need to just discuss how important it is for you to wait/havin the bigger wedding you’d been planning vs avoiding the possible stress/complications that come with having a newborn while wrapping up the planning. 

    If I were in your position, I’d probably elope in a quickly put together wedding with as many family/friends as we could afford, just because I’d want that out of the way (w/ insurance and taxes and all the extra-fun stuff that comes along with it). But that’s only because you’d been planning to be married by this time already. I think either way, you can do it 🙂

    Post # 6
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If you watch your weight gain during pregnancy, eat right, and then breast feed, continue eating right after pregnancy, and maintain a light exercise routine throughout… I think it is plenty of time to between your due date and the new wedding date to do what you need/want to do and have alterations made to your dress if need be.

    Post # 7
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @beccanmatt08: omg congrats!!! You wouldn’t believe it but my wedding is supposed to be sept 1 of 2012 and I’m 4 weeks preggers. So the baby would be born may or june we could still have a wedding in sept but the baby would bee 3 or 4 months, we are still going through with the wedding, please keep in touch since are situations are so similar good luck.

    Post # 8
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve attended two weddings where the bride had a baby about 3 or 4 months before. And everything seemed to go smoothly. So i know it can be done, but it can be stressful too

    Post # 9
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    1892 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I was actaully starting my 2nd trimester the day of our wedding! I had purchased my dress March 2009, which fit perfectly and needed no alterations at the time. We were married October 2010 and my dress still fit perfectly without a single alteration needed! Also, no one knew (besides Darling Husband and my parents) that I was pregnant at our wedding.

    However, that being said, our wedding was very DIY, and I was under a lot of stress from being pregnant and taking care of all the wedding stuff…I made our invitations, did our own flowers, tablescapes, etc…I would look at how much involvement your wedding is going to take on your part and decide if it is too much with a newborn in hand. Had our wedding been after DS was born I don’t think I would have been able to do all my DIY since he has reflux and allergies, which rmakes him basically colic and a terrible sleeper. 

    As for the weight issue, I did/do not work out during/after pregnancy and I am currently 20 lbs under my pre-pregnancy weight (my wedding dress is a 4P BTW). I was back to my weight before 6 weeks was up and fitting into my regular cloths almost right away, so I totally think that it is do-able, even more so if you EBF. Good luck!

    Post # 10
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    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I knew a girl from another forum who gave birth a couple of days after her wedding. Do whatever works for you!

    Post # 11
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you *can* probably pull it off, but it depends on your priorities.  I think if it were me I would probably change my wedding date to 3-4 months from now and have a smaller wedding while I was still pregnant, rather than the original wedding of my dreams with a newborn.  But that’s just me.  If you do keep your wedding date, make sure that all of the planning is done before the baby comes, and hire people to help you out with the day-of and week-of details, since I doubt you’ll have the time to deal with all of that plus the newborn. 

    Post # 12
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    Are you planning on going back to work after you have the baby? There is no possible way I would have wanted to pull off a wedding when DS was only a few months old. Maybe if I hadn’t had to go back to work I could have handled it, but I’m honestly just now (DS is 6 months old) getting to the point where I don’t begrudge weekend activities for taking away from time when I could be sleeping. I could plan a wedding NOW, but at 3 or 4 months I’d have been totally overwhelmed.

    Post # 13
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    7291 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Weight is one thing, body shape is another thing that will most likely change and take longer to manipulate.

    Any way you can do the wedding soon as opposed to later?

    It is doable, but unfortunately I don’t think you will be able to know about what you will be up for until your little one is welcomed into the world!

    Post # 14
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I don’t know if $ is a factor for you, but I’d certainly think through what you could afford as well. Babies are expensive, and take a ton of time too. I think you’ll be less stressed if you have the wedding earlier than later.

    Post # 15
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    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I waited until after and I wish we had just eloped!  I did not lose the weight that fast, but I had other children previously so that contributed.  I’d vote for doing it early.

    Post # 16
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I know a girl who the same thing happened to, and she kept her original wedding date for which she was about 7 months pregnant.  She obviously switched her dress, but looked beautiful and still had fun.  I would probably do the wedding before the birth if it were me…

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