(Closed) Having to rehome my dog, not handling it well at ALL.

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is there any way you can make the apartment work by taking Quil out more often, even if it’s a pain in the butt? Are there any apartments in your complex that have the little tiny built in backyards that you could transfer to? Or are they part of a sister property that you could move within?

Post # 4
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Oh my god. That is so heartbreaking. I have 3 dogs and there’s no way I’d be able to give them up. I’m so sorry that you’re having to go through this! Have you exhausted all other options? If the problem is that you guys aren’t able to take him out a lot because of work obligations, have you looked into getting a dog walker/sitter? You could pay someone to take him out for a few hours during the days when you both workand maybe that’ll help alleviate the problem. We have a great walker/sitter, so I’m sure you can find one in your area!

Post # 5
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I respect your choice. Large breed dogs have special needs and for busy couples without much space (apartments/city living/etc) especially when they are young. It is really hard to make it work. I think that in the end the dog will be better off being with other dogs and having a bit more room.

As far as being upset it is going to be really tough esp the first couple of weeks afterward. But time will help and hopefully going to this persons home will give you peace about the choice you are making.


Let us know how it goes.

Post # 6
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry!  I’m sure that was a very hard decision to come to!  Would you be able to work out with the potential new owner to perhaps visit Quil at a nearby park occasionally or to receive some pictures now and then?  It of course wouldn’t be the same as keeping Quil, but you would be able to still know him (at least a little).  

Post # 8
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is the rehome temporary? Like, maybe the lady is ok with Quil until September and then you can have him back? I don’t know if it works this way….

Post # 9
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That’s very responsible of you. It does sound like he needs a yard and another dog to play with. I know it’s sad, but I’ve seen many adopted adult dogs and they have all done great. I think your Fiance is right that Quil will be happier this way.

Post # 11
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh! I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I couldn’t imagine having to rehome my dog. I would be a total wreck so I don’t think you are unjustified at all ih your feelings. One option I did not see any one mention is doggy day care. It can be a little expensive but Quil would have the opportunity to interact and play with other people and dogs all day and therefore hopefully be less distructive at home. Also could this behavoir be corrected with obedience classes? Best of luck and I hope everything works out for all of you.

Post # 13
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Honestly if I were you… I would try to make it work until September. That isn’t THAT far away and he’s still a puppy. He will calm down a bit as he gets older. I would try some in-house toys that keep him thinking. Like those bottles you put food in and he has to roll around for an hour to get all of it out, etc. 


But. If the decisions is made, let me tell you from the other end….


I have a rescue dog. He went into the shelter when he was 3 years old. It seemed as though his owner cared about him, he was microchipped and well nourished. He went in because she went to jail (don’t know what for). But… he’s happy with me I am 100% sure. I don’t think he misses his old life. He doesn’t respond to his old name anymore. Think about all the people who get rescue dogs and the dogs are perfectly happy with them. I do think that he’ll hurt for a while when you leave him, but he’ll adapt and learn to be happy again. 

Post # 14
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Anthony’s Fine Dining

I seriously teared up reading this.  What a tough decision!  I think that your Fiance has the right attitude in believing that Quil will be happier in his new home.  Try to keep that in mind as well, and know that it’s okay if it takes time to truly believe that on your own.

Post # 15
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First of all, I think you are being more loving and selfless than most pet owners are, so thank you. There are times we have to make decisions that will set them free and cause us pain… be it putting a sick pet down or releasing a pet to a “more suited” home.

Personally, I would try and make it work. Have you tried giving him a job to do on walks? Get a harness and load it up with stuff to carry. Also, NEVER take the same route. Always switch it up otherwise the mind gets bored on walks too. G.S. are working dogs… they need to be put to work or their mind will get bored. I hate to say it, but even if you had a yard he’d get bored if you never took him out.

Also, is it possible to make the dog park a daily routine? Or every other day?

My heart hurts for you, I’m really sorry but you’re acting in his best interest so Thank you.

Post # 16
1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

First of all, this is tough and I’m really happy you’re not considering the shelter. That’s extremely responsible of you.

September isn’t that far away. Crate him when he’s home alone. Some dogs get anxious when they’re left alone with too much space and start doing destructive things. Eventually work up to penning him in the kitchen — don’t give him free reign of the house when he’s alone.

You’re walking him plenty. He just needs to learn that when you’re away, it’s naptime. Eventually he will.

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