(Closed) Having to RSVP no

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it’s fine, and if they’re real friends they’ll understand. Don’t feel bad…everyone has to make these decisions lately. I feel for ya!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh honey! You are not the suckiest friend ever! You are so sweet so be worried. Your plan of sending presents and promising to visit later is totally spot on.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That’s fine.  I wouldn’t feel bad about it and besides, this way you’ll get to see the little ones.

Post # 6
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it’s fine!  Your friends will definitely understand – things just don’t always work out the way we want them too.  I’m sure they’ll appreciate a visit in the spring!

Post # 7
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I think that’s the best compromise ever. They will still feel honored by you sending a card/gift for their baby showers. You save yourself from making two trips at a hectic time. And then you get to go see their new additions.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think yours is a good idea and then you can actually see their little ones.  At the shower there’s so many people there you wouldn’t get as much time with them, which if you’re going to spend that much money you’d probably want to catch up.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I were one of your friends, I’d actually prefer to see you when you could meet the little one! I think you have a fantastic plan.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think it’s more than understandable that you can’t be there for the showers, especially with what time of year they fall. If I were your friends, I would prefer you come when you can afford to and when it’s better for you, and then plan to meet the baby and probably spend even more time with them.

If it were me, I would send a small gift to each (like under $20) for the shower, and bring another small to moderate gift when you visit in the spring. But I’m usually gift-crazy, so I would obviously suggest you do what you can afford 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I think it’s completely understandable.  I would send a gift to the shower AND perhaps also send some flowers (pink for a girl, blue/purple for a boy) since these are such good friends.

 

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