(Closed) having trouble adjusting :(

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh sweets that’s tough.  Do you have anything that can keep you busy when he is at school etc?  Maybe when he is at home, could you communicate another way other than the phone?  My husband and I IMed a lot when we were first long distance and FB chat now when he travels for work.

Post # 5
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sure you can do it!  It’s hard to adjust your expectations but it happens with time.  I used to freak out if I couldn’t talk to my husband because I was sure something bad happened but being out of contact with no option has sort of beat that out of me.  I can’t be freaked out for weeks on end.

Post # 6
Member
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can he ask his new friends at school what kind of cell phone service they have?

Perhaps a different provider would work better. Or he could get a landline so you could talk. or maybe skype/facetime (if you have wifi and apple products?)

Post # 8
Member
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve done that distance before, and recently changed to a very long distance, so I know how it goes! I think transitions are always the hardest for dealing with the distance. He’s starting a new school, probably making new friends, and doesn’t have a steady routine yet. It should be easier once you have some time and visits under your belt, so that you can see he’s not replacing you and that he still wishes you were there. If he doesn’t have as much time to talk, or has bad service, could you set up skype dates? Or just times when you plan to call so he can be in a good reception area? If you could set up a plan you might feel more reassured.

I hope you get into the school near him, that would be so exciting to look forward to! And either way, this will get better once you guys get back into your groove. Hang in there!

Post # 9
Member
49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - A church in downtown Nashville

Coming from another person who has extreme experience with long distance (6 years) I totally feel you! Video chatting helps A TON. Maybe take a little time each night to video chat?

It also helps to feel connected if you guys can start emailing each other right before bed so the other person gets a message first thing in the morning. It really feels like you’re “together”, even if you don’t have a chance to talk as much as you’d like.

Hugs!

Post # 10
Member
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know exactly how you feel hun! My Fiance and I have been doing long distance across the country for almost 4 years now. I am in WA and he’s in MD. It’s really hard no doubt about that. You just have to keep yourself busy with things. And try not to stress out about it too much. Video chat truly does help, a ton! I am always just soo happy after I can see his face 🙂 You’ll get through it, just keep reminding yourself that its only temporary. One day you two will be together all the time 🙂

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