Having trouble deciding on bridesmaids!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would stick with the two bridesmaids. We had an uneven number because one of DHs groomsmen couldn’t come at the last minute and it didn’t really matter one bit. We just had the groomsmen and Darling Husband walk out first individually and the the bridesmaids did the same. It didn’t make one bit of difference to me because I wasn’t there to watch them. 

If you’re not close to the cousin and they get al cliquey while doing things for the wedding, you may start to feel left out. That’s not acceptable. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

It would really suck to feel like an outsider in your own wedding party. BUT your sister will be there, so would you actually feel left out? It’s hard to say. In this situation, I would also keep them mismatched. I don’t think that’s a big deal at all! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I think you should stick with the two you’ve chosen – uneven numbers really don’t matter. I think you are better off sticking with a bridal party that is what you want, not one that is forced due to optics.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Mismatched isn’t a big deal at all. We had 6 and 5. The last 2 girls walked with one groomsman.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Uneven number is fine by me!  I’ve pretty much cast most rules aside with my wedding.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Go with the uneven number! The only time I’ve ever noticed an uneven bridal party was when there were 2 groomsmen and 8 bridesmaids. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Being a Bridesmaid/Maid of Honour should mean something – its about friendship, love and support, so choose as few or as many as you really want to have supporting you on the day.

Please don’t pick people you’re not that close to just so you have even numbers for a few photos.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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jcolleen :  Agree that you should stick with the two that you have, if your Fiance wants the cousin involved that badly she should stand on his side.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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jcolleen :  Also, remember, you *can* change your mind and add the cousin in a little later if you happen to find yourself becomign close with her over the next few months. There really aren’t any rules when it comes to this stuff other than “be considerate of other peoples’ feelings”. 

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