Post # 1
I recently got engaged. The proposal was perfect and incredibly sweet, but he had no ring (which is fine.) He explained that he was planning to get one but life got in the way, and said he’d like to get one later.
As it turned out, by “get it later” he meant the wedding rings. I’m okay with no engagement ring, but I feel a bit awkward now picking rings for the wedding. I feel a little silly wanting something pretty and sparkly when we could just get a band and save a lot of money. He’s supportive of getting me something I like, but I can’t help feeling that I’m being greedy or selfish to choose something that might be more elaborate or fancy than just a simple band, since the band is what has the real symbolism. And he doesn’t get fancy gemstones, so why should I?
Any advice? What kind of ring should I pick, or should I just make him do it?
Post # 3
Pick what you want, you’re going to wear it forever.
Post # 4
You get what you want that sucka is gonna be on your finger forever. If you dont have the bling from the e-ring then you deserve to have it in the w-band! Good luck and post pics!
Post # 5
I absolutely believe you should go with what you want!!!
Post # 7
And he doesn’t get fancy gemstones, so why should I?
ummm…you also wear a bra….does he wear a bra also? youre a girl and he’s a guy, you wear different things. GET WHAT YOU WANT.
Post # 8
A friend of mine didn’t get an e-ring. She said she was ok with it at the time and that they’d get it later, but then the wedding came and went and then the baby came, and five years later she still gets kind of sad that me and her other friends have e-rings, but all she has is a gold band.
If you want one, get one now. I personally feel that every engaged woman is entitled to an engagement ring if that’s what she wants, whether it’s from Graff or from the revolving CZ box display at Wal-Mart, AS LONG AS she’s willing to help pay for it.
If you want an e-ring, get it! But don’t expect him to foot the bill (Though if he offers, awesome! Let him!). My advice would be to get what you want now, so that you don’t regret it later. Life has a way of getting a lot crazier than we think that it will.
Post # 9
There are plenty of eternity and eternity-style bands which have stones in them. Alternatively you could find a vintage piece with engraving that would be pretty and unique.
My SO is involving me with the e-ring wedding design, and it’s gotten to be a real nightmare. I’m so exhausted and tired of looking at rings after rings. I think we’ll end up getting something nice that I will love, but at this point I almost don’t care what the design is anymore.
Post # 10
It’s ok to ask for what you want, it is, there is a ring for every desire and budget…what is not alright is saying something is fine when you know it isn’t…being sensible is a wonderful asset to any relationship, but at some point even the most buttoned down, organized and frugal person in the world gets it over with and goes on a completely self indulgent bender…for me it’s jewelry, and pure bred dogs, for Mr. 99 it’s model trains and boats…there’s a happy median for everyone, but NEVER turn down the opportunity to get what you want!
Post # 11
@instantzen: Do you want an ering? If so you need to have an open and honest convo with your fi.
Post # 12
If you are interested, moissanite or another gemstone offers a lot of sparkle for your buck!
Post # 13
Thanks for the feedback, ladies! I think I might just go sparkly after all and stop feeling so freakin’ guilty about it. I love colored stones too, and that way it won’t break the bank. I don’t really want two rings personally (I actually like the symoblism of finally putting on my ring at the wedding) so I think this will work out. Unfortunately it is a bit annoying to have to explain to people constantly why I don’t have a ring, but only a couple of people have given me a hard time about it. Most people are super supportive and understanding 🙂
@1stRosie, haha, you definitely have a point there!
@EffieTrinket, good point. I think this same thing happens a lot with honeymoons. The “we’ll do it later” syndrome.
@Anise, I totally know what you mean. If I look at rings too long, they all start to blur together! Good luck with the search!
Post # 14
I was the same way, we got married with wooden bands that he carved himself, unfortunately as sweet and romantic as the gesture was, wood doesn’t hold up well to wear and tear and his actually broke at the reception. (he got high fived too hard lol) Anyway the point I’m trying to get across is you deserve a ring but it doesn’t have to be crazy expensive. Get a moissy or a white sapphire if you like the look of diamonds and if not go for a gemstone ring. I waited 4 moths after getting married to get mine, I got a sky blue topaz with a halo setting and I love it! It’s just one of those girly things that ingrained in our minds, we just want something pretty!
Post # 15
I know lots of people who didn’t bother with engagement rings. Just get whatever you want for your wedding ring. Really. It’s not a waste of money — even a plain band can get pricey, depending on material. And it’s your wedding ring!!
Post # 16
I know this is a month late but there are plenty of rings that are decently priced. I got this ring for my RHR. It totalled about $200.
I picked out this ring at JCPENNEY and it’s .75 TCW. $545 if you would want something like this!