Having Trouble Saying Yes to a Dress

posted 11 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Oh no bee so sorry to hear this but I completely get it I also have been unable to find any dress that fits what I had in my head and that makes me want to say yes and spend the money. The only advice I can give you is to start thinking outside the box, go to stores that aren’t necessarily bridal stores, look into custom-made dresses, find out the cost of altering the dress you kind of like into something you really like. Also, try going and trying on dresses by yourself, I know with me I was almost talked into dresses that I would have regretted by having people with me who loved it to the point where I started listening to them instead of me.

Do you have a specific style in mind? Are there things you don’t like about the dresses that are your favourites?

Post # 3
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707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Well if your leaning towards two maybe just go look at those two so you don’t get confused.if they are at the same place try them on. Use layout app and put the two dresses side by side to compare. I think this is helpful cause you can really look at everything and  help narrow it down.  Is there something you like a certain shape or feature like lace or flowers or material,backless etc.  Try to narrow it to type. This can help you narrow down dresses. For me some dresses were really pretty but they didn’t have lace so it made me sad so I New I needed to find a lace dress that was an important feature ….. that being said I also put a deposit down for dress and am going back and forth between two similar dresses and am going back to try them both on again. I put a post on here to help me pick maybe you could do that and people will help point out things to help you decide or confirm what your thinking.  Not everyone has the this it with tears moment I didn’t but I also no I’m not the type of person to expect that. I think I was a little confused to when I got home because I thought I wanted a certain style and I ended up not liking that look. Make a list of what features you like. But I think narrowing down what you like can help. Is there something they could change in alterations or add or take away that would make you like a dress better. I think it’s hard we build up this dream dress since we’re little and you want it to be perfect. You could also check to see when they get new dress in for the next season. 

Post # 4
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145 posts
Blushing bee

Did anyone come with you to see the dresses? When I found mine, my mother, father and aunt were like “yes, that’s the one”. If you haven’t gotten this response yet, you might need to try styles that are different to what you expected – deliberately try different cuts without focusing too much on the details. And try non-traditional dress shops maybe? I didn’t feel great about any of the traditional dresses and only got excited about dresses when we escaped the mainstream bridal stores. 

Post # 5
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145 posts
Blushing bee

Also, there’s no reason to feel sick or anxious. Whatever you pick will be absolutely fine. You can’t really make the wrong choice, since the main point is you’re getting married, the dress is just a nice detail. 

Post # 6
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think (thanks to tv etc) that there’s this expectation that there will be ONE dress and there’ll be fireworks when you try it on, and everyone will cry… I’m sure there are loads of dresses which would be beautiful and suit you, your wedding, everything. Find one or two aspects that you know you want in a dress and then narrow it down from there.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

atlonglast :  what changes do you have want to make to it. Are they easy or complicated? Are you trying to make one dress look more like another? Did you try a lot of styles on or just one type of dress. Be open even at if you didn’t like style one place you may like it elsewhere. If everyone saying one dress maybe go back to just that salon try it on try then try more dresses and then see if your still leaning towards the one. The second shop I went to really tried to show me what the changes would be like showing different liner under dress or adding sparkle tulle or what beading looks like or adding straps. 

Post # 9
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

atlonglast :  I relate that is absolutely the problem I’ve been having as well, unfortunately the dress I liked the best with the alterations I wanted was going to be out of my budget so now I’m working through a custom dress which has me feeling much more relieved about the whole thing and will be within my budget. However one thing I did which helped a lot was use Photoshop and photos of the dresses I liked best to visualize the alterations we could make would that be something you could try?

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