Post # 1
I have been having some rough nights for about the past week or so. I seem to wake up every couple of hours for no reason. I haven’t had any nightmares or bad dreams about the wedding or wedding planning that I can recall, but this is rough.
My wedding is in 25 days. We live together, so I don’t think I’m nervous — anxious maybe. Most of my DIY projects are done. I have a Day-of Coordinator, things seem like they should be fine. So, why am I having trouble sleeping.
Even if I go to bed at 8:30 or 9 pm, I still wake up in the morning exhausted. Last night I had a headache, I was actually excited to take Tylenol PM. It did nothing!! I still woke up every few hours. I shouldn’t say it did nothing — my headache went away.
Do you think it’s just the wedding that I’m nervous or anxious about or should I be looking at other causes? Thanks in advance, Hive!
Post # 3
I think it has to do with <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: Verdana”>unconscious stress – I had the same problem. I was just too excitable (positively and negatively) to let my body relax enough to sleep soundly. My suggestion would be to keep on exercising (it helps!) and do something to relax your mind (not wedding/anything stressor related) before you go to bed!
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
I can’t say if it’s normal or not, but I had REALLY bad sleeping problems leading up to the wedding! I got really dependent on the Simply Sleep over the counter stuff. It was really hard! A wedding is such a big life-changing event. Even if you are living together and have a DOC. It’s still a lot of work, and it’s your baby. If you’re anything like me, you’ve put your heart and soul into this event. And it’s not just a dinner part, it’s supposed to be a reflection of you and your FI’s relationship. There so much pressure! It didn’t really surprise me that I had trouble sleeping.
I didn’t really find anything that helped other than the sleep aids. I wish I’d done more meditation or relaxation techniques to tried and calm myself more before bed. I’d recommend keeping a notebook beside your bed in case you are thinking of anythign when you wake up. That way you can write it down and forget about it instead of feeling like you have to stay awake and remember it.
Other than that, take a bath, have a glass of wine, get a massage, have a wedding free date night with your fiance. But mostly know that it won’t last forever. You have less than a month and things will start to get back to normal. You’ll be fine. Just take good care of yourself. And talk to your Dr if it really starts to disrupt your life.
Post # 5
haha I just woke up from the most awful wedding dream and then saw this. I dreamed i used this shampoo the day of the wedding that turned my hair red, then apparantly i had forgotten to see if we could wear strapless dresses so the priest sent my bridesmaids home. I forgot to make a cd for wedding music so we didnt have any music. It was awful, haha. I didn’t realize how worked up I was until now.
Post # 6
Working out is a great way to help you sleep through the night. Just make sure you don’t do it before bed! If possible, work out in the morning before work or on your lunch break. Even a brisk walk around a few blocks will get you moving. Then in the evening, do some light stretching and drink some Sleepy Time chamomile tea (my favorite thing to turn to when I am feeling restless).
As much as I love wine, try not to drink some too close to when you go to bed because it will wake you up in the middle of the night.
Also, try not to worry too much about if you are going to sleep or not cause that will keep you up! Funny how our bodies work sometimes! Good luck!
Post # 7
ME TOO. My wedding isn’t even close. It’s next June, but graduate school starts next week for me. So on top of that stress, and wedding planning- I think it is compounding itself. I had this dream last night that I was late to my own wedding because my faculty advisor wouldn’t let me go to my destination wedding until the day of. Consequently in my dream I didn’t have time to get my hair done, the caterer didn’t do the food like at the tasting, my fiance’s guests came late, and an ex showed up! *<Gasp>*
Post # 8
One thing that helps me sleep is to make sure I don’t use the computer for at least an hour or two before I go to bed. Apparently the light from the screen can trick your body into thinking it’s still light outside and disrupt your body rhythms.
I’m having trouble sleeping and I’m over 8 months out!! 😛
Post # 9
My wedding is less than three weeks away. Last night I dreamt that is sleeted the day of the wedding (I am getting married on a tropical beach!), the photographer didn’t show up, and I had no place to do my hair and makeup. The horror! I am not having nightmares about the groom not showing up, thankfully. To me, this means that I am not nervous about marriage but anxious about the details of the day — and I can deal with that!
To combat anxiety-based insomnia, I’ve been enjoying a glass of wine early in the evening (too close to bedtime and it can wake you in the night), a warm bath with soothing bath yummies like lavender, and a cup of hot chamomile tea with a little honey, then reading in bed for a while. It winds down your body and mind to a relaxed state. Oh yeah – and exercise like a fiend during the day!
Post # 10
What time do you get up in the morning? If you’re aiming for 8 to 9 hours, 8:30 or 9 may be too early to go to sleep. If you can’t stay asleep or get to sleep for more than 30 minutes, get out of bed and do other things until you’re more tired. That way bed = sleep, not restlessness.
Post # 11
You are not alone. The wedding is way next year and I already have issues. I will admit that this usually happens when I am in a new place/phase of my life. In the past month and half I have gotten engaged; quit my jo in search of a new career;started wedding planning and gotten a new job. There’s way too much on my mind. I agree hat working out definitely helps. Also watch what you eat and drink at night. Perhaps maybe doing some breathing, meditation and/or prayers may help you a bit before going to bed may help.
Post # 12
Caribqueen, I can totally identify … I got engaged 10 days before FH and I moved across 4 states to a city where we know no one for me to start a new job (after 5 months of unemployment because my old company closed) … it is A LOT to deal with at once … some days are better than others (today being a quite inferior day).
But, I can’t wait to make it official with my fabulous finace and am looking forward to seeing so many old friends at the wedding so that’s something.