(Closed) Having two bridal showers.

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How many bridal showers did you have?
    One : (40 votes)
    50 %
    Two : (27 votes)
    34 %
    3+ : (8 votes)
    10 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    899 posts
    Busy bee

    Telll your Maid/Matron of Honor that. It will be two totally different groups of people. And that means less expense for her also.


    Post # 4
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaids are planning one together with my aunts/cousins who also wanted to host. It will have family from both sides and all of my friends and will likely be held at the church. There will probably be around 60 people invited. There’s nothing wrong with having two showers. You could explain to your Maid/Matron of Honor what you said here. 


    Post # 6
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I only had one, thrown by my Maid/Matron of Honor.  Both family and friends attended. 

    Lots of people have more than one shower though, so it’s definitely not a big deal.  But do you want to have 2 showers?  If not, then maybe she can focus on the bachelorette.


    Post # 7
    899 posts
    Busy bee

    @BakerBee16:  there shouldn’t be a problem unless they’re inviting a lot of the same guests, which it sounds like they wouldn’t be

    Post # 8
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I had two.  One with my future in laws across the country, and one at home with my family here.  I have never heard of different showers for different age groups – only separate for different locations.

    Post # 10
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m having two – one is a traditional shower and the other is a christmas party where people I think are just going to bring a small ornament. I had to turn down some shower offers because I don’t want any more than that. I don’t think that’s odd, several of my friends have had more than one. Sometimes one thrown by an aunt, and then one thrown by work or something. 

    Post # 11
    5778 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Many people do combine them, including both family and friends, but sometimes in doing so, it makes the guest list pretty large and way more expensive. It will also take many more hours to open gifts, possibly tying up a whole afternoon. Your Maid/Matron of Honor should be thrilled she can control the list and make things easier on herself!

    It’s a shame she’s making you feel bad about it at all. What an odd reaction from her.

    Post # 12
    47 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I had 2. Both our families are really large and it would have been overwhelming. We had one for my side of the family and my friends and then his side had one. We invited all moms and sisters to both. If there are to many people at one large one, it takes longer and you don’t always get to socialize with everyone. There is nothing wrong with 2. If that is how you are comfortable, then go for it. If you prefer 1 then just explain it to your Maid/Matron of Honor. I could see how she would get a little bit offended. She wants to create something special for you because she cares! You could have her put all her energy into your Bachlorette party, or make the one for friends more of your Bachlorette party!

    Post # 13
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I will probably only have 1…but my Maid/Matron of Honor had 3! So two is fine 🙂

    Post # 14
    2610 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I will probably have at least two. Future Sister-In-Law is throwing me one with their side of the family (both are families are quite large) and then my Maid/Matron of Honor (cousin) is having one for my side of the family plus my friends (mostly bridal party). Some people at work though have also mentioned wanting to do something for me so that might make it three! No issues though, everyone offered to this and is so excited about it.

    Post # 15
    46607 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m in the 3+ category.

    My future in- laws church ladies hosted a shower for me.

    My work colleagues hosted a shower.

    My bridal party hosted a shower.

    My Mom’s friends in the city I grew uo in hosted a shower (these were all ladies I knew from childhood.)

    They were all surprise showers , so I take no responsibility for having too many showers. There was little or no overlap amongst the guests, other than the mothers.


    Post # 16
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @BakerBee16:  Most people I know actually have more than 1.  I find it is a way for different groups to have different showers.  It probably depends on the size of your wedding though.  My sister had 4 I believe, a friend who’s wedding I was in this past summer had 3 I believe and I have already been told that I will be having at least 3 – my sister (and MOH) will have one for my family, my bridesmaids will be hosting one for my friends (the younger crowd), and my FI’s aunt will be holding one for his side of the family.  I don’t think it is strange at all for you to have two! Remind your Maid/Matron of Honor of how she can host a more fun shower if it is all the younger crowd! 

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