Post # 1
What are everyone’s thoughts on having two maids of honor? My fiance and I are having a pretty small wedding, and our attendants will probably consist of only two girls and two groomsmen. One of the girls is a good friend from college and another is my future sister-in-law. I am not as close to the college friend, but she is very responsible and would probably be more helpful in terms of wedding “duties”. My FSIL and I are very close, but she can be a bit flaky in terms of getting things done or being places on time haha. I love both of these girls and don’t really want to have to “rank” one above the other. Would a co-maid of honor title be insulting or confusing in any way? And if I were to have two maids of honor, would my fiance need to have two best men? Would love to hear your opinions!
Post # 3
@MKWeddingBee: I am having a matron and a maid. My best friend since I have been 9 lives in Montana (I live in Mi.) and she is pregnant with her second child…she obviously won’t be able to do as much and I don’t blame her. I am having another best friend be my maid of honor. Both are really cool with it and my FI is only having one best man.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@MKWeddingBee: Why not?! I don’t see a downside, really it is just the wording. I am having a man of honour so screw formalities!
Post # 5
@MKWeddingBee: Well, I’m having a “Best Woman” and no bridesmaids. I think you can have whatever you want!! I like the idea of having two, equal women at your side on your special day!
Post # 6
@MKWeddingBee: I had my cousin/best friend as my maid of honor and my sister as matron of honor. My closest friend and SIL were bridesmaids. Having to MOHs worked out really well for us! I think since you have only two girls it’s a great idea to have them with the same title! My DH had one best man and three groomsmen. I had my sister go with the best man because she was 32 and best man was 26, my cousin was 23 and DHs other brother was 20 so they just looked better together! 🙂
Post # 7
I have a maid and a matron.
Post # 8
i had one matron of honor, two maids of honor, and six other maids. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with it!
Post # 9
@MKWeddingBee: Go for it. Why not?
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I had two MOHs and 4 other BMs. No big deal! And DH had just one BM (his brother), and 4 other GMs. So we had two MOHs and an uneven number of BMs/GMs. No one worried about it! Haha. You’ll be fine, in fact I think in your situation it’s a good idea to ask them both to be your MOH so there aren’t any hurt feelings!
Post # 11
@MKWeddingBee: I never understood the difference between BMs and MOH to be honest. To my knowledge, in french we use the same word to talk about both. There is no ranking. In that perspective, and since you want your BMs to be equal, just call them the same and make them both your MOHs. 🙂 I don’t think your fiancé needs 2 best men unless you are both uncomfortable with having uneven wedding party. If I were a guest to your wedding I wouldn’t think it’s weird or anything.
Post # 12
I’m having two maids of honor, my sister and my best friend, and my brother as a bridesman and FI’s younger SIL as a bridesmaid. FI is having his brothers as best men, his older SIL as a groomslady, and good friend as a groomsdyke (her term lol, and she won’t be wearing a dress). It’s obviously not the most traditional thing, but it’s all people we love, and we’re happy we didn’t have to choose between our top 2 MOH/BM choices! You should do whatever you want, and your FI can decide whether he wants both his guys to be best man or just one. 🙂
Post # 13
I had maid of honor and matron of honor they both wore same dress *silver* and I had 6 bridesmaids who all wore same dress but in *purple*
Post # 14
@MKWeddingBee: the way i see it….ITS YOUR WEDDING DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!!
I had two MOH’s one was my sister and the other was bff. I couldnt decide btwn the two…
Post # 15
As long as your MOH’s aren’t the catty/jealous type, I don’t see a problem with it!
If you did see a problem with them fighting over it, you could always just not have one and have 2 bms instead.
Post # 16
I think its fine to have 2 MOH! I probably will! 🙂