(Closed) Having two wedding receptions?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it’s a good idea.

However out of curiosity, how are you going to word the no wedding gift required? I think people will still bring a gift even if it isn’t required as it is basic etiquette. 

Post # 4
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 1997

Sounds like a very nice way to handle the situation.  I wouldn’t mind attending a different reception if my friends needed me to!

Post # 5
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have certainly heard of this kind of thing being done before… so if it works for you and your situation (Fiance, Family, etc) I say run with it.

And it sounds like a good compromise… lol, I’m betting both events will be fabulous !!

Just to follow up on what sruan:  has posted above… you cannot really put that statement “No Gifts Required” into your Invites for the Second Reception *… as it really is an Etiquette Faux Pas (Gifts should never be mentioned)

* You will need to have Invites Printed for BOTH Events, and sent out in the usual way beforehand with RSVP deadlines etc… so that your Guests will know when they come to the actual Wedding that there is a Reception they’ll be attending (altho I’d downplay / not talk about the fact that there are 2 Receptions and 2 Guest Lists to anyone).  If anyone asks WHY the Reception isn’t the same day, I’d just make a point of saying “it was a matter of logistics” (which it clearly is)

PS… Likewise, I do hope your Wedding Party and immediate family is invited to both events… as no doubt your Friends deserve to feel they are part of the entire package… and not some after thought.

Hope this helps,

Post # 6
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@VintageMichelle:  Great idea! Would you put your dress on again for the second reception or wear something different? I bet some of your friends would actually PREFER just being invited to the less casual event (thinking of my SO here who hates formal things).

Post # 7
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re doing something similar:  a very intimate, small ceremony and reception for only closest friends and family.  Later in the summer, we’re having a barbecue at our home to celebrate with the remainder of our friends who didn’t make the “A” list for the actual wedding.  We’ve  made it clear to them that we don’t want presents, but just for them to come and have a good time, and will indicate the same on the invite.

Post # 10
45 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

We’re doing two receptions for logistics reasons: one in the US, and one in Finland! Most of my family can’t fly to the US for the wedding, and likewise his family and friends couldn’t possibly all fly here. So, we’re throwing two parties, essentially, to be able to include everyone, because that was important to us. Obviously we’re only getting married in one place, so the Finland reception will really be only a reception with no ceremony prior to it. That could make it seem like a “lesser” reception, arguably, but I think people understand why we have to do it that way. I’m sure everyone will understand if you let them know it’s basically because of practical and logistical problems 🙂

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