Having wedding nightmares….after the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow! Does your body think you didn’t stress out enough before hand? Maybe you’re still working through ‘wedding issues’ at night while you’re sleeping?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

LOL Your photographer was annoyed by it!!!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

same thing happened to me…! it’s been over two months now since our wedding day (and like yours, everything was beyond perfect!). but a couple weeks ago i had a dream that the ceremony was about to start and i was totally unprepared. my hair wasn’t done, no make-up, i didn’t know where my dress was…and i was freaking out b/c i knew everyone was waiting but i didn’t want to go out there in my unprepared state. i woke up in a panic!

we were going to a friend’s wedding the next day, so maybe i was projecting?! don’t know…..bizarre.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think that’s normal. I think with any stressful situation, you’ll have nightmares afterwards. I know this is WAY silly, but I was in a top-rated state championship band in high school and years later…I STILL have nightmares that I have to go out there and remember every step and note. I think it’s normal, and the weird dreams will probably subside over time. 🙂

 

I am glad to hear that your wedding was fabulous!!!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Me too!  I had wedding nightmares and panic attacks for a full week after our wedding.  And everything went perfect too!  I guess it’s just stress finally catching up with you.  Perhaps that’s why its good to take a honeymoon right away!!  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had a wedding nightmare recently too!  (two months AFTER the wedding)  I was SO stressed in the dream but I can’t remember the details.  I woke up and was SO glad to be done with planning!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have them too! Recently I started having them about other people’s weddings, which I think is a step forward…

What I think is going on is that my stress has always come out in dreams, but the actual content of the dreams used to be random mash-up of whatever had been in my thoughts. The thing about weddings is that they’re kind of a perfect fodder for stress dreams – high-stakes, one-chance, lots of people to impress, have to be perfect, in the spotlight – and so I think my wedding nightmares aren’t actually *about* the wedding anymore. They’re about generalized stress, they just happen to take place at the wedding.

I can never remember them afterward, but there was one where it was pouring rain and my dress was covered in mud.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I had several too.

I woke up laughing about them because it was so after the fact!

I’m on to dreaming about other things now, but I think in the first month I was still processing everything 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh man, i dreamt after the ceremony we couldn’t find each other (groom and me).  wherever i went there were people congratulating me, distracting me, but not him.  i used all my mental force to make it back to the bride’s suite, where he was waiting for me, knowing that that’s where i’d be looking for him and he was looking everywhere for me too!  then we ate eggrolls.  all in all, very gratifying.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I did the same thing for almost a week after the wedding! And our day was PERFECT– not a single thing went wrong. So I dunno, but at least when I wake up I can breathe a sigh of relief that my dreams were not the reality 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am so glad that I found this thread! I thought that I was the only one to have wedding nightmares after my near perfect wedding!

In my dream, I went to get my hair cut and they chopped it all off! All of my bridesmaids were late. My hubby was being an ass. I was going to make my dad walk into the church and call the whole thing off! It was soooo scary. Those hair dreams are rough.

In my dream, it wasn’t the wonderful wedding that we had, it was the wedding that my mom wanted me to have. Oh god! It was in a different city, different church, I didn’t even want to be there.

That didn’t happen, I haven’t had the nightmare since though. Thanks for letting me know that I’m not alone!

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Oh my I’m in the same boat and my poor hubby hasn’t slept right since either as I wake up out of my dreams in a panick and wake him up as I absolutely believe the dream is true…..the flowers are ruined or we didn’t lock the house door when leaving or he whole wedding is wrong! I’m not sure how to get over this….any solutions ladies? 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

LOL!!! I havent had any but all your stories are hilarious… Loving the hair disaster ones.

I think all the stress we dont deal with during our ‘pre-wedding planning” comes out in nightmares.  Or maybe it was just the pizza you had in the 24 hours prior…not sure.

either way, great stories laughing

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