Post # 1
I bought a wedding dress about 8 months prior to the wedding because the dress shop said it would take 6 months to come in. I pressured myself into buying a dress as quickly as possible. I bought this dress (attached). I loved it when I tried it on. I thought it looked vintage and reminded me of my grandmothers dress (besides the fact that its strapless!). I was torn between three dresses and I chose this one. Also, I bought a traditional mantilla veil which is still LOVE. As my finace and I are planning our wedding, my dress is becoming less and less a part of the wedding theme. For instance, our ceremony is at a church so the dress is OK for that BUT our reception is at a historic mansion and gardens. The mansion wont hold all of our guests, so we opted to hold our seated/plated dinner in the gardens under a tent. The tent is a plain ol white frame tent and we cant aford the luxurious drapping and chandiliers so we’ll probobly have to DIY. Now that we are going to have a more “informal” reception (in my eyes at least) I feel like my dress is too formal and innapropriate for the setting. I cant return my dress and I feel bad buying another one because my parents offered to pay for the first and I would hate for them to loose the money. I thought about selling it too. Help! I cant sleep and the fact that I made a bad decision is on my mind all of the time!
Post # 3
Do not beat yourself up over this! I just said it to another bride, but I think the fact that you loved your dress when you bought it should let you know that it is right for you. If the dress is not an important part of the theme, why should it matter if it is slightly more casual than you feel the reception is? And honestly, even if your reception is in a tent, it is still on the formal grounds of a mansion so I think that would mitigate the “tent” feel. Also, the bride is “supposed” to be the most dressed up person (besides the groom) there. It is a beautiful dress, and the sentimental value of it being similar to your grandmother’s is so sweet. I would not worry about it if I were you. 🙂
Post # 4
It’s difficult to imagine how informal your reception will be, but it doesn’t sound THAT informal to me. And I think your dress is perfectly fine for something a bit less formal. I was expecting to see some big elaborate ball gown, and your dress is nothing like that! I think you should relax because it’s a very pretty and unique dress and would be great at a garden wedding! You are a bride, you are supposed to be dressed up anyway!
Post # 5
I think it’s perfect! I too was expecting some huge elaborate ballgown, but I think the shape and sillouhette of the dress is perfect for your wedding!
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s too formal and think you should just take a couple of deep breaths and relax. Trust your first instinct and stick with what you already have. It’s easy when you have so much time to second-guess yourself!
Post # 7
I don’t think your dress is too formal at all!!! It’s your wedding day – you are supposed to look at least somewhat formal. I think the only time you should change your dress is if you don’t like the way YOU look in your dress, if it doesn’t make you feel beautiful, if it doesn’t make you feel like the bride. Otherwise, every bride has second thoughts about her dress at least at some point. Don’t stress too much about it.
Post # 8
Honestly, that dress looks perfect for the wedding you described! It’s gorgeous! I would say, try it on again, and if you still love the way you look in it, stop stressing over it! Oh, and also, the way you accessorize it will make it feel more or less formal… So, you know, gloves, an updo and a tiara in that dress will give it a whole different look than, say, hair down with a simple clip or something.
Good luck, and enjoy your gorgeous dress!!!
Post # 9
It’s your wedding, you get to wear whatever you want and since that dress is gorgeous, you should definitely wear it regardless of the theme
Post # 10
I think its perfect as well and can transition to any theme.
Have fun! Its gorgeous. I think every bride second guesses herself. (I did the same thing!)
Post # 11
I don’t think a wedding dress could ever too “formal”. It only works the other way. You’re the bride, the star of the event, you’re supposed to look bridal even if your wedding’s in a backyard or a beach. If you love your dress and that’s your only concern, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
Post # 12
Too informal??? You’re the bride! Wear whatever you want!!! I think your dress looks perfect for how described your venue. I wouldn’t worry about it at all. Your dress isn’t a huge ball gown, it looks very appropriate. You’ll look stunning!!!
Post # 13
Thanks for all of your help and advice…here is me in it…
Post # 14
I think it will be perfect for the event you described! and you look very happy in it.
Post # 15
Beautiful! You’re still having your wedding in a classy location who cares if it’s in a tent without chandeliers! Don’t change it at all!
Post # 16
Absolutely gorgeous dress, and it looks truly beautiful on you! I think you would be doing yourself and the dress a disservice if you didn’t wear it. This is THE dress! WEAR it! 🙂