Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
We had a long talk about relationships and our relationship and he told me marriage scares him! He tried to change it later by saying it’s not a huge fear but I believe it is. He said he wants to go to individual counseling and agreed to go to couples counseling. Bees I’m scared now…never would I have gotten so emotionally involved with him had I knew he had this fear. He was the one that brought up marriage talk early on in our relationship. I swear if him and I don’t work out I am going to stay single for the rest of my life…dealing with another person and their issues is really starting to really wear on me and can just be avoided if I stay single uuugh!!!!
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
I don’t want to sound harsh at all here but you know what? This guy isn’t good for you. He’s not going to marry you but I fear he will continue to make you unhappy. You deserve much better.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I think that is much too harsh PP. This guy admitted his fears and is going to go to counseling for them, i think that shows a man who really wants to better himself.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
@WillowTreeWade: +1
Give him a chance before freaking out. I think the fact that he suggested counseling is a good thing!
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@WillowTreeWade: I’d refer you to the previous threads about the OP’s FI. I would not normally make such a harsh judgement were there not a considerable backstory.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@MrsWe: WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH THIS GUY!??????????!!!!!!!!!!!! EVERY POST YOU WRITE ABOUT HIM IS BAD NEWS AND YOU’RE ALWAYS UPSET ABOUT WHAT HE DOES.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@WillowTreeWade: Read the thread history about this guy…
@MrsBeck:
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
@lina010: I take back my post! Thanks for pointing me to the history. I didn’t even have to read them because I remember them from the titles.
OP ignore my last post- why are you still with this guy?
Post # 10
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Busy bee
I’m actually going to agree with PPs. Judging by your previous threads, this relationship is very on-off and you don’t think all that highly of him – for good reason by the looks of it. Maybe it is time to re-evaluate whether or not you want to be together.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
@ZebraPrintMe: +1
This guy is clearly wrong for you. He is not making you have a good outlook on life. In a way, he’s… Toxic. One of my good friends was w/ a guy for 6 years. The guy had zero intentions of marrying her yet agreed to go to counseling to “get used to idea of marriage.” Do you think they are together now? No.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@MrsWe: I have to be honest OP, this relationship does not seem fit for marriage. Some relationships are meant to happen so that we can learn and grow from the experience (both the good and the bad) and I feel like you need some of that. This is not someone who seems ready for marriage and really, it’s not someone who seems worthy of being your husband. Please focus on yourself and consider removing yourself from such an unhealthy relationship.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
OP you have had waaay too many major disagreements with him and you have only been dating one year! Your posts from 4 months ago (you were only dating 9 months then) were about him treating you like an assistant and asking you what you offer him. You really need to walk away. It shouldn’t be this hard this soon.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
@Sunflower–girl: +1
not to mention he sounds like he has zero consideration and respect for you.
I will never get why women hold on to asshole men. And vice versa
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.-Albert Einstein
Post # 16
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Helper bee
@MrsWe: did he even propose to you or anything? it is hard when you guys aren’t on the same page. I never get men who say they are afraid of marriage. It simply translates to, “i am afraid of commitment”
