Post # 1
Hi Bees –
I’ve been on the waiting boards for a bit now and can, finally, remove myself. Saturday morning, I was down on the floor playing with the dog when he asked me to stand up…. so I did… he took be hands and said “I don’t have a ring for you yet, but I will. I had a whole thing planned in my head, but I can’t wait anymore…. Beeingpatient123, will you marry me?” Obviously, I said yes. He thinks that the actual proposal was cheapened due to the fact that he didn’t have a ring to give me – but I didn’t care! He said he will make the ring giving moment special.
In the meantime, we’re thinking we’ll fulfill the symbolism “requirement” by going out and getting a stand in until we decide on my actual ring. He didn’t understand that stand-ins and upgrades were a thing and was putting so much pressure on himself to save for my forever ring… once I explained that there were other options, and that I didn’t need a ring, he said he felt such relief!
Anywho, we told his dad yesterday (who immediately asked when we’re going to get the offspring cooking…ha!) and I plan to tell my parents and his mom in the upcoming weeks.
So tell me bees – did any of you get engaged without a ring? How did you navigate the “let me see the ring!” comments?
We’re planning on a pretty short engagement (we’re no spring chickens and are looking forward to getting this party started!) so I can’t wait to jump into planning mode!
Post # 2
beeingpatient123 : congrats! You’ll have fun picking your for now ring.
One idea is to get a stacking band and then you can still always wear it once you get your forever ering.
Post # 3
BalletParker : Thank you and that’s a great idea – thanks!! (And, it just so happens, a local jewelry store has a stackable sale going on right now…hmmm!)
Post # 4
It’s totally normal in our circle to have a proposal without a ring. FI and our 4 year old actually made one using LO’s beading supplies, but they forgot it on the day of the proposal. I just bought a $40 CZ ring off etsy as a stand in while ours are being made. When people ask to see my ring, I show them and just say “this is temporary, the real one is being made.” No one in our circle is materialistic or traditional for that matter, so it’s really mellow.
Post # 5
daisy123 : I love it!! What a sweet idea it was to make a ring with the beads! I think most of my circle will be similar to yours — but I can pin point a few who are going to be terribly confused!
Post # 6
Fi had to propose with a stand in, because my ring wasn’t ready yet. I wore it for a little while to get the feel of it, but it was too big, and we had to send it back to the jeweler before they’d send my ring once it was ready. I was without a ring that weekend and until Friday of the following week. All anyone did was ask to see the ring! But, it was fine, and I just said it was a fun story and I was waiting on it to come in. Then that Friday, I got to show everyone.
Post # 7
I proposed to my fiance without a ring and then we picked both of ours out together. I wore a silver ring he got me for an earlier anniversary on my left hand while we waited, but it wasn’t actually noticed as an engagement ring because it’s all metal and a bit different. We also didn’t tell anyone until the rings got here because we wanted to enjoy the new stage of our relationship for a bit before people started asking annoying questions about the wedding planning and having babies.
Post # 8
Congrats on your engagement!
My DH and I got engaged without an official proposal or a ring. He “proposed” 9 months into our engagement (and 4 months before the wedding) with a band we’d picked out together earlier that day.
When people asked where my ring was before that, I’d just say I hadn’t decided what to get yet.
Post # 9
Thank you all. So great to hear all of these stories. We’re so excited and can’t wait to continue the planning!
Post # 10
Congratulations on your engagement!! What a romantic story ❤️
Post # 12
I waited about 5 months before we got the ring. Everyone who asked, I told them that we were still choosing. I wish I’d discovered moissanite before I did. I have a 1.5 carat diamond but having seen moissanite, i’d have saved him the thousands and gotten a moissanite instead.
Post # 15
My DH proposed without a ring, but we did not announce our engagement until he purchased the ring. Congratulations! I think you can easily say that you’re engaged and the two of you are designing or choosing a ring together.