Post # 1
Ok bees, I have some awesome waiting updates! SO and I are about to celebrate our one year anniversary. We have been seriously talking marriage since about 3-4 months together and we know this is it (I am 26, he is 28). About two months ago he said he would like to be engaged in about a year to year and a half. Last night, we officially both agreed we would get married in 2015 and that we would get engaged in 2014! After that discussion, he asked about ring preferences. He said that he would like to shop for it alone, so it’s a complete surprise for me, but would like some guidelines. I was so caught off guard and all I could think of in that moment was white gold/platinum, thin band, about one carat, and no marquise cut (just not my style). He repeated the “list” to me and we both gave each other big, goofy smiles 🙂
We didn’t really talk more about it after that. Now, today, I am thinking I wish I told him a little more about ring preferences and am thinking it would be nice to send him some pictures. I have five saved on my computer. My question is…is it ok to send these? He didn’t ask for pics but I would feel much better knowing he has a few pictures to look at when he does shop. What’s holding me back is that I don’t want him to feel pressured. I am so happy with the pace we are moving and don’t want him to feel like he has to start looking tomorrow…
Post # 3
I would suggest that you email them and say something like… Hi sweetie, I was so overwhelmed last night by our lovely conversation. I wanted to send you some visual examples of what I like as well, so you have more than just the verbal list.
And then leave it. 🙂 He did ask, and you were caught off guard, so admit that and just let him know that you aren’t trying to be pushy, but you had a few examples.
Men tend to be visual creatures, so it can’t hurt.
Post # 4
@aithinne: That’s what I was thinking! I definietly don’t want to sound pushy, I just want him to have some examples saved for when he needs them.
Post # 5
@HoneyBee827: I second pp’s worded the right way it won’t sound pushy at all
Post # 6
@HoneyBee827: I think a flirtatious, “do you mind if I email you some links to rings I like so you can get an idea?” is perfectly permissible, as is emailing said pictures/links. 🙂
Be warned, though– I did this back in February and I believe my SO has JUST contacted one of the jewelers, 2 or 3 weeks ago. So it can take 7 months for anything to really happen! But personally, having emailed him examples of things I like gives me WAY more peace of mind about his ring choice that I would oterhwise have. I am very picky about jewelry style, and he knows that, so I think it was the right thing to do.
Post # 7
So, I sent the pictures yesterday and he was really glad that I did! We looked through them together and I think he has a really good idea of what to look for now 🙂
Post # 9
@HoneyBee827: I did the same thing too… I’m glad he was receptive.
I’m now at a point where I have almost zero knowledge of ring specs because I gave my SO a pic early on with a comment saying “I love the way SQUARE rings look :)”
Keep us updated!