- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2016 - Enoch Turner Schoolhouse
This happened very recently. End of January. 2 nights before going on a trip to Jamaica for a friend’s destination wedding, my bf asked me to invite my family over for dinner – he made pot roast. It wasn’t unusual because we always had mine or his family over for dinners all the time. We’ve been living together for almost a year, but dating 7 years. The last 2 years I had been hinting about getting married. At my bestfriend’s wedding last November, my mom hinted at my bf when she got drunk LOL
Before my family arrived, my bf told me that he saw his mom the other day and she asked if my dad could fix her wedding ring. The center stone fell off. My dad’s a goldsmith by trade, so it made sense.
After the delicious meal, my mom and I sat on the couch just relaxing, and I remembered my bf’s mom’s ring. So I said, “Babe, don’t forget to tell my dad about the ring.” Immediately my mom’s head spun around 360 and gave me this “What ring?!” look. I said, “No mom, it’s not what you think”. She quickly changed her excited demeanor LOL.
So my bf and my dad went into the kitchen to talk about his mom’s ring. When they were finished, my dad came and sat beside me on the couch. I was in the middle in between my parents. All of a sudden, my bf goes, “Speaking of rings…”
My brother was behind my bf with a mouth full of food. My bf says to my parents in Tagalog (my language, I’m Filipino, my bf is Irish) “I would like Gemma to be my wife. May I have your blessing?”. My bf learned how to say it in my language!?! My brother was banging his hand on the table out of excitement, mom and dad stared at my bf with their mouth open, and I kept saying, “Oh my gosh is this happening right now?” After a long and awkward pause, my dad finally said, “OF COURSE” and my mom was clapping and I was all teary. So my bf continued and goes to my dad, “Speaking of rings… can you make me a ring for Gemma?”
Growing up I knew it was super important for me to get engaged with a ring that my dad made. Not only was it a way for my then bf to ask for permission/blessing, but I would always have a ring that had sentimental value, family heritage, and which I plan to pass down to a daughter one day.
So after we came back from Jamaica on Feb 6th, I gave my bf a week to relax and get his daily routine back on track before bugging about my ring – I am super excited. My dad started to wonder when he could get started on it. Last week on Feb 19th both my dad and bf went to Toronto to get THE diamond and materials. My bf even bought me a pair of pearl earrings “just cause” and he bought the replacement diamond stone for his mom’s ring – she didn’t mind a cubic zirconia but my bf is just so sweet he got her a real diamond anyway. So now it’s been a week, and my dad is probably almost finished. So the element of “surprise” is gone, I know what my ring will look like, and I have a feeling my bf will ask on our anniversary (March 17th). But I know I will still cry when he finally presents the ring to me.
Oh, and I think I’m the only non-engaged bride with a date already set, a venue booked, and pretty much all the wedding plans already in full swing before I even get my ring.
So technically we’re not engaged yet, but to me, we’ve been engaged since that night after dinner with my family.