(Closed) He asked my father, and my parents embarassed me.

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow I’m so sorry.  It sounds like your parents are just being abusive to you again.  I would try and keep yourself seperated from them as much as you can, not accepting money from them or talking with them about the wedding planning much.  You are better than them!

Post # 4
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Is being promiscuous such a terrible thing?  Do you think your boyfriend wouldn’t want to marry you now because of who you’d been with in the past?  Would you not want to marry your boyfriend now if you found out he slept with a lot of girls in the past?

I know you’re hurt because your dad talked badly about you not because he said that in particular but the fact that what he choose to show case as your ‘bad’ behaivor is seeing guys… just showcases how deluded and ridiculous your dad is.  You knew you didn’t have a good relationship with him and now is only more evidence for why.

I strongly advice you take this into consideration as you start planning and do not count on your parents for any particular kind of behaivor!  Do not epect them to act like the parents you wish they were – you will be disapointed and hurt.  They will not change because you are getting married.

Post # 5
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry that something that should be very exciting has been overshadowed by that. I’m glad to hear that you moved away and it sounds as though you are starting a wonderful life with your soon to be fiance.

Post # 6
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

This sounds terrible! It does sound like your dad is still trying to have some kind of control over your life and is abusing you again. It’s definitely very painful, but it’s relieving to know that your boyfriend obviously doesn’t believe a word that your dad told him. At this point, maybe it’s better that you also distance yourself from them, though gradually. To be sure that you keep your boyriend’s trust and confidence that you won’t tell your dad what he told you, just start to pull away from them and stop contacting them as much.

On a side note…so exciting that your BF is moving forward with things! Congrats and hope the engagement comes soon :o)

Post # 7
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Wow i am so sorry! That is terrible what your father did… but I am glad you have a great guy by your side and your future is bright!!

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