(Closed) He asks me to wait for two years.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mable:  How long have you two been together? How old are each of you?

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

His timeframe does not sound unrealistic or unreasonable to me.  However, if I were you, I would try to enjoy what should be a continually growing relationship with him while still continuing to move forward with your own life as a not-yet-engaged-or-married woman, focusing on accomplishing goals that you may have for your own life prior to marriage.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think he is being unrealistic. Your willingness to support his decision/desire to prepare to be the best husband he can be is really important at this time (IMO). Best of luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

honestly, I say stick to the timeline, forget about weddings and get off of weddingbee…you only know eachother 6 months, it is premature to be on a site like this if he wants you to wait another 2 years IMO- planning/thinking/talking about weddings will do nothing of value to your relationship right now.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is he talking about waiting 2 years to date or 2 years to get engaged or married?  (The latter makes sense, but just wanted to be sure.)

I agree with Brielle–There is still lots of time for ya’ll to grow together, and to grow as individuals.  Take advantage of this time now to enjoy the freedom of not being engaged or married.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry it sounds like his timeline is not what you wanted to hear 🙁

I personally think two and a half years before settling down has tremendous benefits. The first year of a relationship is a honeymoon– everything about each other seems perfect. I think it takes a full second year or so to see each other as they really are, to experience the relationship without rose-tinted glasses. We moved in together after 2 years and it was perfect, because it gave us another year before getting engaged to REALLY see each other under a magnifying glass and decide that despite all that we still wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.

I hope you guys are able to find a timeline that you are both happy with and enjoy your budding relationship 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not sure why you are even asking about timelines at this point in your relationship.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@fiver:  have to agree!  Enjoy dating before thinking about marriage.  six months is no time at all compared with the amount of time you would be married to him.

So, enjoy and have fun discovering more about each other.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We waited 2 years and that’s pretty soon compared to most people. Most of his friends were shocked by how “soon” we got engaged, but to us it wasn’t soon..it just felt right. At 6 months, we were barley making out with each other lol. I’d wait if I were you… that’s just too quick in my opinion.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

While you may not like his timeline, at least he was able to give you one.  His reasoning sounds both logical and practical.

My advice:  Don’t focus on how long you will be waiting.  Focus on using this time to get to know one another better.  🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Dell79:  I agree, way too soon to worry about a timeline.  She is only 24, plenty of time to get to know him better and see how the relationship is after the honeymoon phase of it(which 6 months is def still in that phase).

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