posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OMG that’s terrible!!! How long do you have this exchange student?

Post # 4
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Is there any way to contact the exchange company and tell them you are having difficulties?

Post # 5
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I really hope you can look back on this and laugh. Even though you really wanted to eat it, that’s a pretty good story to share in the future. I actually laughed out loud at my desk when I read this because it’s so ridiculous and I can’t believe he ate it!

Can you contact the agency that placed him with you? Maybe they can help with all of the issues he is giving you.

Post # 6
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d be livid! I’m sorry that happened 🙁

Post # 7
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


That is horrible. Is there a mediator from the organization you signed up with? Is there someone you guys have a talk with to help make things clear to him that he needs to start following the rules according to the contract?

Post # 8
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh I’d already be on the phone wih the exchange company telling them to find another place for him to stay.  That really sucks, I’m sorry!

Post # 9
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow… I would be really upset too!

I know this seems like a long shot, but since this may have happened overnight, is there any possibility he is a sleep walker/sleep eater?

Did he eat other things overnight too?

Sounds like he’s just inconsiderate though. I’d talk with the organization who organized the exchange.

Post # 10
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I get that this sucks (I would be angry too) but try to look on the brightside.  You still have 1/4 of it left (so not all of it is gone), which just means you need to order a cake from your baker when your anniversary comes around.  You’ll have an old and new cake.  Who doesn’t want more cake?  Hopefully you will be able to laugh about it eventually.  Or you can douse the remains in visine and let him have fun.

Both the brides and grooms cakes were thrown away after our reception and there was a lot of cake left.  Thankfully my stepmom saved the topper.  I cried.  I was SO looking forward to eating the leftovers until I was sick to my stomach.  It was the one thing I looked forward to in dealing with everyone’s crap.  Our baker was so great she made us half the brides cake a couple of weeks after.

Do you have recourse for your troubles?  Does he have to stay the entire time?


Post # 11
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Are you kidding me? You mean he went into the freezer searching for food and decided to eat CAKE?! I’m just wondering why out of all things he decided on that. And why he didn’t ask first. I would be mad too. I mean, I understand there are different cultures, HOWEVER.. you would think he would ask in order to not get into any trouble with y’all. Unless you said eat whatever’s in the fridge. That may be where the confusion is. I’m so sorry that happened!

Post # 13
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Dude. That’s not okay. Who finds a fancy frozen cake in the freezer and just decides to pig out, then leaves the wrapper all over your stuff on the counter?! This guy sounds like a class A jerk! How much longer do you have to put up with him?? I agree with the others, is there someone at the exchange company that can act as mediator or help you through this? You’re wonderful for opening your home to this guy, but even without this cake incident you don’t exactly sound happy with the situation.

ETA – I just read your update. I’m glad you’ve contacted the company and that you’re going to talk to this guy. If he’s not happy maybe you could help him find a hostel to stay in, but it sounds like a reminder of the point of why he’s staying with you and the rules and boundaries are definitely needed.

Post # 14
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OMG, I would be so pissed!!!

Post # 15
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@christalynn11: Do you mind sharing his background with us? The reason I ask this is just because I work a lot with cultural barries and we actually just did a workshop on “meeting half-way”. Maybe the reason he is not communicating with you has to do with his culture and up bringing?

Is there a language barrier as well?

Post # 16
1124 posts
Bumble bee

Rude is RUDE. I don’t care where he’s from. I would have FREAKED OUT.

The plus side? Some of your cake is still left! You can still eat it on your one year… just less of it.

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