(Closed) he beat me up..badly.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 93
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

redheadbee77:  I’m sorry about what has happened. I don’t know the back story and the reason that has caused to be so scared and prone to continue your relationship. But to live with a man who cannot respect you and cause you physical pain is something so sad that it should not be tolerated at all. I know I can give a long speech about how you’re better off without him but I know you dearly love him or care enough about the relationship to even continue after this.

But you need to realize, if you are talking to random people online about it, then there has to be a reason. Please be kind to yourself. Find a way to help yourself and stop being scared.

Don’t stay quiet and miserable, find a way….

Post # 96
1490 posts
Bumble bee

redheadbee77:  good for you! You are a strong woman who is not going to put up with any BS!

Post # 97
21 posts

It was totally not your fault. But even you do whatever wrong things in his eyes, he has no rights to beat you. NEVER!! you can tell your close ones too, in case something go wrong. I wish you would call the police. but if you don’t then at least let someone know about it. This is for security reason. You d never know how far this man can go. safety first. another good thing is when you tell your loved ones, they may able to support you better than us. You are strong and nice. Every women deserve healthy love and caring. you deserve better than this.


Post # 98
1167 posts
Bumble bee

redheadbee77:  glad to cross the line and be thought of as a bitch instead of watching idly by waiting for news that you might be one of those women killed in domestic violence.  Glad you are feeling better and the advice was not meant to say you are weak, it was meant to protect a woman.  

Post # 99
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Glad to hear it! You did a really brave thing. Good luck and keep protecting yourself from him. 

Things will get better.

Post # 101
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

redheadbee77:  I’m so proud of you!  I know that may sound cheesy but it’s true.  I know from personal experience how hard it is to end it with an abusive partner.  Even though there is abuse he can also be very kind and loving.  It’s so confusing.  As my late grandmother said “It’s better to be alone than in bad company”.

Post # 102
141 posts
Blushing bee

redheadbee77:  Anytime. We’re all pulling for you. I’m so glad you took the first step, that was *so* brave. Not because you’re going against him but because you have to fight your own heart and fears to do it. *BIG HUGS* to you.

One more thing and then I’m gonna shut my preachy mouth. All my childhood I grew up hearing I wasn’t good enough, in the shadow of people who were more ‘preferred’ than me. More beautiful, more talented, smarter, more charismatic, flashier, whatever. I was told I better hang on to what I had and work on it because it was the best I was ever going to get.

That was the biggest lie ever told. Huge.

Plain I am. Talentless, average and a regular ‘old brown shoe’ of a person I may be – that may all be true. Regardless, my experience is men are just like busses. If you miss one wait a little while and the next one will be along shortly. It has never failed. Men love everything about women and we are women. You will not be alone.

Your job now is to heal, put this awfulness behind you and the next go round pick a good one. They’re definitely out there and remember, with everything that happens we learn. You have simply learned to spot what you don’t want more quickly. It wasn’t for nothing. Hold your head high.

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