(Closed) He bought the ring… I'm super sad about it. :(

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just wondering why you decided on Moissanite. If he can afford a diamond and wants to buy you one why wont you be happy with it?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Paiger8:  Gulp.  Hugs.  I get where you’re coming from.  I’m so sorry.  I want this to be a joyful time for you, I’m so sorry you’re disappointed right now.  I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt you, but would irk me for a man to think he knew “better” than me about something like that, too.  Sad with you right now.  Frown 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Swizzle:  Curious to hear the response…

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There are worse things. The ring yes is for you to wear and is important for you to love, however many men also see it as a reflection on them and wants to be proud of the ring he has bought you.  Not that it is right, but for people not on the bee there is less awareness of the alternatives out there and there is some judgment passed on what type of stone you do or don’t have.  Maybe he’s afraid of what people will think if they find out it’s not a diamond…

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m sorry, that sucks πŸ™ I would be upset too.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Paiger8:  Idea!  Get a moissanite RHR and problem solved!  πŸ™‚  That way, you’ll both be happy and both will get what you want.  That’s totally what I’d do.   Maybe wait a week or three after getting the diamond ring though, hehe.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am sorry you didn’t get what you wanted! As a moissanite owner I can say that I had to have a lot of conversations with my husband (then boyfriend) about why I wanted it, how cool it is, the price, etc. It took a long time to convince him but now that I wear it he loves my moissys! I really think it’s unfair your fiance purchased a ring with a stone he KNEW you didn’t want. I would feel betrayed, belittled, and probaby a little ashamed. As if I were silly for suggesting it in the first place or something.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would be really upset TBH.

To me the ring isn’t ‘just a ring’; it’s something I’ll wear every day for the rest of my life, and more than that, is a symbol of our love and committment. So if my OH had completely ignored what I wanted, I’d have been really upset TBH.

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Paiger8:  Awe, it sucks when you don’t get what you want.

Just try and understand that most people out there are convinced that diamonds are the way to go! My Fiance, even though I was totally for it, would have NEVER gotten me a Moissanite because he wanted to get me a diamond. Diamonds are great stones as well!

Maybe since he got you what he wanted this time, perhaps in the future you can get a Moissanite anniversary ring? The best of both worlds πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Paiger8:  his moms views may be where it’s stemming from. Diamonds are beautiful stones too. I say he owes you a moissy RHR now! πŸ˜‰

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