(Closed) He bought the ring and was so excited! But I don't like it…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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vatoca1016:  can we see the picture of the ring you sent him? Maybe he changed it to that one instead 🙂 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

That is a beautiful ring, but trust me I understand a ring just not being your style!  Although he may feel a little bummed right now, when he gives you a ring you love and your whole face lights up, he will forget this ever happened! 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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vatoca1016:  damn!!  I really love that top one!!!!  ugh!! I can see why you were a bit bummed (because of the style, not because his ring was ugly). I think both rings are (his and yours) are gorgeous. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

Both rings are beautiful! Not very similar, yet nice in their own way. Seems to be very common that men likes to add their own “touch” to the ring…. Often makes them the almost the opposit of what was discussed from the beginning. Why I don’t know since the bride to bee’s probably shows them the ones they find absolutely most appealing. I really hope that your last guess turns out to be correct. But even if it’s not, the ring he sent you is gorgeous too, even if it’s a different style!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

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vatoca1016:  Aww bless him, he sounds like he’s doing his best and wanted to surprise you. You did the right thing about being honest, better to be honest than end up with a ring you hate.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just had to agree with you about the ring that he picked out.  I just don’t like it at all.  What the heck is going on with the two-tone area?  Even if it was one tone I think I would still find it off putting. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

You were right in telling him. I would maybe just add that you’re very appreciative of the time and effort he is placing into it. Last thing anyone wants is to have a ring that they hate or resent…and not telling them while there’s still a time period to possibly return can be a pretty bad mistake. As long as you know the budget and don’t try to go out of his means…he shouldn’t feel too upset that you were honest about it.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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vatoca1016:  I actually really love it the way it is 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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vatoca1016:  I think that’s very sensible. So I would just bring it up as you want to say thank you for what he’s doing and also slightly point out those points. I’m sure he was down about it…because who wouldn’t be. However, I’m sure he feels better avoiding you hating something in the long run. I’m sure together you can make it a memorable experience finding whats right. Either way, his engraving can be something very personal and touching If he goes that route with a ring you like.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

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vatoca1016:  I am dying over that photo of the Brilliant Earth rose gold halo. You said he knows that is your favorite — but that simple design is so radically different from the one he ended up buying, I just don’t get it!

You mentioned he is hesitant to order online. You might suggest to him that this type of halo design is so simple, it should be easy to find just about anywhere. If a jeweler doesn’t have it in stock, they could make one custom. In fact my halo ring is very similar to that, but it’s white gold. We used a family diamond and had it created custom and I love it.  

With the ring he picked out, I think part of the reason it looks busy is that it is mixed metal. If he does propose with that ring, maybe you could have the whole thing switched to rose gold so that it will be a little more simple. 

Overall I think you’re handling it well. I know you feel bad about his feelings being hurt, but I think you definitely did the right thing by nicely speaking up. He did ask for your opinion. It’s not like you were mean on purpose.

Remember your feelings count. This isn’t just any old piece of jewelry. You deserve to love your engagement ring. You’re going to be wearing it every day for the rest of your life!

I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Please keep us updated. If he proposes with the first ring, maybe the Bees can make suggestions on wedding bands that will go with it. Or perhaps it could eventually be re-set into a setting that is more your taste.

Hang in there!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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vatoca1016:  ohhhh the brilliant earth halo is gorgeous! 

 

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