(Closed) He bought the ring and was so excited! But I don't like it…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

I see… gotta be honest, not a fan at all of the ring he picked out. Love the rings you selected (especially the first one), though. His choice is way too busy/flashy and not as classy looking as yours. I think he probably got caught up in all the glitz and didn’t think about the fact that this is something you will wear for the rest of your life, but I wouldn’t hold it against him, he’ll be thinking more practically about it now. It wouldn’t surprise me if (as you suggested) someone at a jewelry store sold him on this.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

Can you call Kays yourself and see if he put in the order? Explain your situation to the manager? Maybe there is still time to cancel the order…? Gosh this is a tricky one  – wish i had more to offer .. 

Post # 35
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615 posts
Busy bee

Looking at the ring you think he got and the two you like it, it looks like he tried to combine elements from the two rings you like into one ring.  The ring has a halo (just not like the one you picked) and a twisted shank..  It’s a beautiful ring even though it isn’t exactly one that you picked (don’t know where any of them fall budgetwise for your fiance to be) and it actually isn’t too far off either ring.

I wouldn’t call the store and try to cancel the order- that may push him away.  Either way you a getting a beautiful ring that was selected with obvious love and excitement.

This may get me a lot of hate and I don’t mean to come off harsh- but honestly on this board in gerenal, there is too much emphasis on stuff like this.  In the grand scheme of things it is just a ring.  If its not 100% the dream ring, its ok. Relax, enjoy the love, and be happy when he pops the question! I think you’ll be surprised how beautiful the ring looks and feels in that moment.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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vatoca1016:  I think it’s best to be honest. My guy wanted to get me a three stone ring for an e-ring. I repeatedly told him no (because he repeatedly brought it up) and then i let him know what I really hoped for.

 

Post # 39
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Busy bee

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vatoca1016:  Stop worrying about it  And I say this with love!  His excitement about the ring is adorable and its clear he loves you. Congrats in advance- this is a fun time!

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I kind of understand how you feel – my Fiance ended up picking a ring NOTHING like I had hinted to him, and we had looked at pictures and in store quite a few times before hand. I had told him just something simple, a princess cut with a white gold band, and ended up with a 3 stone ring. Although it’s not what I originally wanted it, I still love it, and love the fact even more when he told me that when he seen that ring he knew it was perfect for me. The thought he put into it made it that much more sentimental for me, and it has really grown on me. After proposing he told me I could exchange if I wanted to, but I liked the idea of him surprising me, and I wouldn’t want to exchange his proposal for anything, including getting a different ring. 

It worked out for me, and I’m sure in the end things will work out for you also πŸ™‚ Bottom line he did ask your opinion so he must’ve wanted your feedback, or maybe had some doubt. It’s also better to find out now because realistically you’ll be wearing it for the rest of your life, and you should be happy with it πŸ™‚ 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

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vatoca1016:  I’m with 
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chelsy33:  on this one. My fiance put so.much.effort. into buying a ring, and it wasn’t my style. I got a glimpse of the ring before he gave it to me (long story), but he didn’t know I had seen it. I had exactly the same feelings about it you’re having now. BUT you know what? It’s been on my finger for over a year now, and even though it’s not my style, I can still appreciate the thought and the love that went into picking it out. And it’s grown on me. I’ll never think it’s the most beautiful ring in the world, but I do love it now. 

You’re allowed to not like the ring OP. Those feelings are totally ok and don’t make you a selfish person. You can not like the ring, and still LOVE the person who gave it to you.

If he does end up proposing with this ring, just know – you’ll be ok. πŸ™‚

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Sorry OP… dont know what else to say but that stinks πŸ™ 

Why would he show it to you to get your reaction AFTER he already ordered it. That would be like me showing my Fiance the dress I picked out and saying “waht do u think of this?”. He’d probably be like, meh its OK, and then I would be devestated. 

So whats he going to do? How did you guys leave things?

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