(Closed) He bought the ring and was so excited! But I don't like it…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I love it especially the profile. 

Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It’s unfortunate he didn’t cancel the order when he had the chance, but he was probably overwhelmed at the thought of starting over.  I would emphasize the (hopefully) beautiful center stone when you receive it, and if you still hate it after a period of time, maybe you could suggest resetting the center stone in a new setting.  I would assume they take trade-ins…

It may well look very different on your hand than on the web site, as someone else suggested.

 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m going to be honest here and I apologize in advance if it ends up sounding harsh.

If my Fiance surprised me with a ring of his choosing and I had no idea it was coming…I’d try to love whatever he picked out.

If my Fiance had financial constraints that prevented him from getting me what I really liked…I’d try to love whatever he picked out and later reset the stone, add to the collection, etc.

If my Fiance KNEW what I wanted and it was within budget but he got me something else then I’d look at the INTENTION behind that. If he intended to give me something that symbolized our years together, or he fell in love with the idea of the past-present-future thing, or whatever moved him emotionally (so to speak) then I would probably fall more in love with him and see that every time I looked at the ring and smile privately. If he knew what I liked, disagreed with my taste and prioritized his taste over mine, regardless of the fact that I would be the one wearing it every damn day…I’d have a f**king cow over that. 

 

 

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It does look from the side to be a really tall ring; that might be enough of a reason to have it changed if it gets caught on everything…

Post # 65
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I like it more with the wedding band.

Post # 66
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Worker bee

I think you did good telling him what you liked and disliked.  I am a very upfront and honest person and told my fiance “i dont wanna be surprised with you picking it out, let me show you exactly what i want and who to make it and when your ready you can buy it.”  On the other hand, I say the same to him, I always say “tell me exactly what you want for your birthday (or whatever the occasion may be), because ultimately if you love it then i love it.  I want you to have what will really make you happy. ” I love letting people be who they are and for us it works wonderfully.  I personally dont like element of suprise in regards to aesthetics because I am a picky person and I know what does and does not look good on me in general.  I think if he can change it then he should change it because its beauty in the fact that you both have different taste and like different things, thats what probably makes you guys click so well

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t understand why he didn’t cancel the order after you said you didn’t like it? That would bother me to no end. 

i think resetting the centre diamond in a rose gold halo of your own choosing is the best option here. I would be concerned if resetting the diamond upsets him after he asked for your opinion, disregarded it and went ahead with  major purchase knowing you didn’t like it. why even ask for your opinion?! 

Sorry bee, hope it all works out xx

 

Post # 68
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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girlseeksring:  So you’re getting the same feeling I am. 

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Are you sure he isn’t psyching you out and pretending to have gotten you the ring you don’t like, so it will be more of a surprise when he proposes with the ring you love?  

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