- 4 years ago
Well, the title says it. As some of you may have read, I recently broke things off with my fiance. And when I say recently, I mean this week. Yes, we broke up THIS WEEK. MERE DAYS AGO.
Anyways, I ended things three days ago (Tuesday) due to issues we had been having in our relationship and his lack of willing to improve things on his end. So, I moved all of my things out of the bedroom (we own a home together) and into the guest room. This includes my closet, my decorations, bathroom stuff, etc. It’s all in there, and luckily the bed that is in there is the bed I had when I lived alone. Anyways, I’ve set it up to be like a dorm room, similar to the one I had in college.
I woke up the morning after our dramatic split, and it seemed as if my ex-fiance did a 180. The entire house was spotless, and blah blah blah (it’s in my previous post). Well, the following day, this changed. His sad and apologetic demeanor changed into anger. Not to the point where he would verbally or physically show this towards me, but his behavior displayed it. After getting ready for work, I came downstairs and a LOT of things were trashed – my built-in shelves were broken, my dogs food was scattered all around the kitchen floor, my grandmother’s china looks like it was slammed in the sink, the freezer was left open so all the food in there was melted or thawed, you get the point. I don’t know how I didn’t hear all this happening! Was he drunk? I don’t know. I sleep with ear plugs in at night because I am a very light sleeper, but I should’ve heard this damage going on…. I didn’t even bat an eye when I saw it. I figured that something like this would eventually occur, but I didn’t realize it would be THIS soon! Who does this?
I left for work after cleaning up the dog food and feeding my dog, and I get a text on the way there. It read:
“I hope you like what I did with the house. It will be here for you to clean up when you get home tonight, I’ll be out.”
I didn’t even bother responding. It doesn’t affect me anymore, I am numb when it comes to him! So, when I arrived home from work, he wasn’t there as he stated. Fantastic! I love it! I took some of my summer clothes over to my parents and anything I had stored in our garage/attic so that it was a head start on leaving. My dad has allergies to dogs, so I can’t go live with him, but they’re kind enough to let me store some things there. I’m still saving to move out to a place of my own with a roommate, and eventually sell the house. He can’t afford the mortgage alone.
Okay, so, it was around 11 and I was getting realllly tired. I usually have a nighttime routine of walk dog, shower, get outfit ready for the next day, lay down, and go through social media. Well, I have an Android phone that is connected to my laptop (which was downstairs the night before) and I clicked on FB and saw in the search browser that all of my ex-fi’s exes were recently searched. Then I checked messages – he was messaging them to see what they were doing tonight (last night). Welp, now I know where he is!
Around 11:30, low and behold, he comes home with a girl. I heard his car door slam and him stumble out of the passenger seat. He even saw him looking up at the guest room window! I think he was making sure I saw him coming home with her! I didn’t recognize her, I don’t know who she is. I don’t even care. I shut off my night light, put in my ear plugs, and tried to doze off.
Even through my ear plugs I could hear his loud banter and laughing. Shortly after I heard moaning noises and what sounded like fists pounding on the wall. Like, ew. Grow up!!!!!
I did not react, I didn’t confront any of them. I just stayed in my room and eventually fell asleep. My poor dog had to listen to the show he was putting on! UGH
Well, this morning when I woke up and came downstairs, the girl (still don’t know who she is) was sleeping on my couch with my quilt draped over her…perhaps she was naked? I didn’t see any “goods” but her shoulders were bare. The door to the master bedroom was open and he was still fast asleep. I guess they tried different areas of the house last night to do the dirty.
As I left, I reminded the young lady that there was fresh coffee if she would like to help herself 🙂
While driving to work, my phone BLEW up with text messages from my ex: all capital letters:
“I CANT BELIEVE YOU SPOKE TO MY GUEST, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TALK TO ANY OF MY FRIENDS THAT I BRING TO THE HOUSE!”
“DID YOU EVEN CARE ABOUT ME AT ALL?? YOU DONT EVEN BAT AN UGLY FAKE EYE LASH WHEN I BRING ANOTHER GIRL HOME?”
“IF YOU KEEP IGNORING ME ILL RUIN THE REST OF YOUR SHIT”
and it continues. Like, what the hell? Go ahead and ruin all of my crap, I don’t care. As long as I’m away from you, less for me to haul when I move! Freak.
Needless to say, I ignored all of his texts. I don’t even know if that’s a smart move at this point because it only seems to anger him more. It’s like laughing at someone who is really pissed off – they only get more enraged.
Advice is welcomed. I don’t feel like involving the police because what really can I say? He broke something? Whatever. I don’t fear for my life. I don’t want to screw him over and therefore screwing his family over because they would have to bail him out. And I still want him paying for the mortgage until our house sells because both of our names are on it and I don’t want my credit score to go down the shitter. I dk…this is such a cluster fuck.