(Closed) He brought it up

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I giggled a little bit. “when you think its never gonna happen” I think he meant that it will be a surprise, but gosh men certainly don’t chose their words carefully do they? Well at least he’s talking about it and not afraid to discuss it with a co-worker right?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

lol, no, men don’t think when they speak. i have an SO who is living proof because his freakin mouth has gotten him into more hot water with me! lol.

i think what he meant to say was “when you WOULD THINK it would never happen” meaning an emphasis on the time/place least expect it aspect, not, “he’s never gonna ask!” i have no idea how my SO feels on this issue, the same night we got into the mini argument about the comment he made about my friend being married, i asked him if he knew how he was going to do it and he said, he had “a few ideas,” which i know means, “i have some ideas but they aren’t good enough.” so i do wonder how he is going to do it because we literally have NOTHING special  going on in the next 6 months (besides his birthday and a 3.5 year anniversary) so if he tries to do something like taking me someplace away from home or a getaway, i’d kinda know and i don’t think he’d want that. i think mine is going to be sneaky about it too.

and i knew my friend was getting engaged 2 days before she did so it kind of sucks when you are the last to know but that may be the case! the only reason i knew was because i walked into the jewelers the same day her now husband walked out of the store with the ring and the jeweler (who knows both of us well through family) told me. so really, no one knew i knew, then i told her i knew after she texted me a pic of the ring. lol.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I think it’s a great sign that he brought it up. That tells you that he is thinking about it. Don’t worry about the timeframe. Life goes by so fast, it will happen before you know it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

He definitely seems on his way to proposing!!  To me, the way I understand it, the “I will ask you when you least expect it when you think its never gonna happen…”  means:

When you least expect it, he will pop out the ring.  I don’t think he means he’ll make you wait long enough that you’ll forget about it.  But more the actually “moment” would not be expected at that specific time.  We tend to think (at least I do) that we’ll be asked during a nice dinner, or at our anniversary, etc.  And that could very well happen, but I think your honey wants to do it differently perhaps, and really surprise you.

Sounds to me like it will be special because he is thinking about it.  And I’m hoping for you that the fact that the pictures were seen by a colleague of his may in a way push him a bit?  I know my partner started talking about weddings and stuff after we attended 3 weddings last year.  It kinda made him think y’know.  But we are older, I’m 33 and he will be 39 in a Month….. so that also helped push him a bit.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree, it’s great that he brought it up and that he is comfortable speaking about it with his co-worker. By The Way whenever my SO says he will do it when I least expect it, I always think “well that would really be now”. Because the longer he waits, the more I will know its going to be soon so i’ll think every time we go somewhere itll be it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

you should give him a do over on that one!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

@Anxiouspeanut: Let him rephrase it. I think it came out wrong!

But I’m glad he is bringing it up  more 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

@Anxiouspeanut: I have to give FI’s do-overs all the time 🙂 But it saves our relationship lol

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