Post # 1
I have been seeing this guy for a year now who I think has serious issues but I’m not sure if it’s me causing the issues. We met obviously with the intention of wanting a serious relationship. We’ve spoken about marriage, and he makes comments like, his mom won’t like me because I can’t speak our language very well, he tells me that i’m overweight and that his family won’t like an overweight daughter in law.
The other day, I tried to have a conversation with him about how I don’t like when he puts me down and dismisses my accomplishments, and he went on to call me a psychopath and crazy..
Today I asked him if he wanted to truly be with me because he never really makes any effort to want to see me or spend time with me (I’m usually the one planning the dates) and again he called me crazy, weird and a psychopath and said he doesn’t see himself with me in the future because of my insecurities..
I really don’t know what to do at this point.. Am I causing these relationship issues??
Post # 2
You don’t know what to do? Leave him. Life is too short to be in a shitty relationship with someone who doesn’t respect and love you.
Post # 3
hellokittyxo : Read what you just wrote and then imagine that you have to now give advice to another woman who is in the same situation. If your answer isn’t, “dump him,” it should be.
Post # 4
Seriously? This is a bunch of bullshit. Just end it and find someone who is worth your time. Don’t give him another second of your time.
Post # 5
Why would you want a lifetime of this?
Post # 6
Why do you want to be with someone who repeatedly puts you down and says he doesn’t see a future with you because you are overweight and don’ speak the same language?
Why are you giving ultimatums to spend more time with you when he has repeatedly told you in no uncertain terms that he doesn’t even like you and doesn’t see a future with you?
He’ll keep banging you whenever he wants as long as you let him, but people who like you and see a future with you don’t name call and repeatedly tell you how much their family will hate you. He has repeatedly told you how he actually feels about you – you just refuse to see and hear it apparently.
Get out and find someone who doesn’t treat you like garbage or less than.
Post # 7
Why are you still with him? Leave him!
Post # 8
You break up, that’s what you do. As in today. You are not even engaged and you are tolerating disrespect and verbal abuse. He won’t change and things won’t get better. You’re the one who should see no future.
Post # 9
totallyabee : I have no idea. I guess because I feel like he could take care of me, but everyone is right, I am just tolerating verbal and emotional abuse.
I just don’t understand why he get so angry when I try to talk to him about relationship issues… i don’t think he loves me tbh. It’s been a year and i havent met anyone in his family, he never takes me out and blames it on his social anxiety, he forget my birthday andn didnt wish me until i reminded him. He never wants to be my plus 1 whenever there is a birthday party or social event being held. I am currently practicing publicly speaking at a club and he never watches my speak, nor does he support me when i win. He will never provide any positive feedback he’ll just say thing slike you’re stupid, youre not funny, youre a loser.. why do i put up with this?
Post # 10
I feel like I can NEVER have a talk about how I feel with him because it always ends up in a fight or I’m a psychopath and being “weird”.
BUT if he has a problem with my weight, or clothes, or makeup, or that I can’t speak our language very well, he expects me to go to the gym, work out, watch what I eat, learn how to speak fluently, learn how to dress better, learn how to do my makeup better. Gosh he is such a *****
Post # 11
All I said to him today was this:
Do you plan on seeing me at all this weekend, or the week?
His reply: The weather is bad..
Which is BS because he went out yesterday to grab dinner with his roommates
Then I proceeded to text:
I would appreciate if you could just let me know if you still want to be with me because you dont really make an effort to see me, so of course i am going to think that you arent interested in being with me anymore
His reply: I’m not interested in your bs
My reply: Well you can give me a proper mature answer when you are ready
His reply: Bye. And here is my answer. Sometimes you are nice and today you are being psychotic and weird and probably having another psychotic breakdown. I dont see myself having a future with your insecurities.
And to that, i replied “ok”.
Post # 12
Honey, the psycho in this situation is NOT you…
You deserve better than this. Run as fast as you can. Block his number. And then treat yourself to a mani/pedi and a nice glass or three of wine to celebrate the bullet you dodged.
Post # 13
He’s an asshole. Asshole are incurable. Don’t marry an asshole. Marry someone nice.
Post # 14
Yea, he’s a dickweed. This is absolutely ridiculous don’t put up with that bullshit. Delete, block, on to the next. Refuse to tolerate this kind of treatment.
Post # 15
That ok should be , “Ok Bye f***boi”