Post # 1
So my guy has a friend that he’s known for about 7 or 8 years now… the kicker is, he’s never MET this friend in person.
It’s a guy that he games with (yes, I will be a gaming widow at times) and they are very close – have talked on the phone with each other and to the spouses, and we’re really excited B is coming to the wedding.
Nick wants to include him in some way, but didn’t want to go the traditional usher route.
We’re Catholic and the readers are already selected…
And I’m out of ideas –
Have any of you ever run across a ‘this person rocks but where do I put them’ scenario?
Post # 3
No but I am glad to see there are more of us out there! lol…Fi is a big time gamer!!! Maybe…nope, I’m stumped!!
Post # 4
Fiance has several of these friends, some of whom he has already met in person. How exciting that he’ll be able to be at the wedding! Maybe you could ask him to do something like announce your first dance together…? I don’t know… We are having such a small wedding that we don’t have a lot of “extra” people participating!
Post # 5
Wow, that is a tough one!
What about something similar to an usher but at a different point in your celebration? Maybe he could help people find their table, help pass out favors, dedicate a (pre-approved by you) so to the two of you?
Let us know what you decide to do 🙂
Also, I think it is great of you to let him be included since it is clearly so important to your man!
Post # 6
maybe he would be happy being in charge of “doing something” like running a homemade photo booth for the guest book.
Post # 7
What about bringing up the gifts? Is that person already chosen too?
Post # 8
I meant the during the ceremony – not your wedding gifts, lol.
Post # 9
hmm. I haven’t chosen the Eucharistic ministers yet – but don’t they have to be Catholic?
I don’t know that much about Catholic wedding ceremonies – having never been married before. ;p
I may just tell Nick that if B is that important, throw him on the list of his guys and call it done.
Post # 10
I think the Eucharistic ministers need to be (although I’d check with the Church just in case), but I was referring to the people that bring up the offerings. I don’t think this is a regional thing, since I’ve seen it done all over the country.
Oh, here’s something:
“<strong class=”pblue”>Eucharistic ministers
Eucharistic ministers distribute communion to the assembly. Ask the priest or deacon who will assist at your wedding whether you may invite friends or family to serve as eucharistic ministers. If the assembly is small, the presider usually fills this role himself. Eucharistic ministers must be baptized and confirmed in the Catholic Church.
In a wedding Mass, the gift bearers bring bread and wine to the priest at the beginning of the Liturgy of the Eucharist. Generally, two people present the gifts at the altar; however, sometimes a whole family (including children) will serve as gift bearers.”
Post # 11
If you and your FH are comfortable making him a groomsmen, go with that. I would not recommend making him part of a Catholic ceremony, if he is not Catholic. Not only will you get some backlash from your priest, he might also feel uncomfortable.
Another option would be to ask him to make a toast. We actually had 6 people give toasts (not all at once but in two groups of three before and after dinner). Not everyone was in the wedding party.
Post # 12
first, I’m curious about your use of the term “gaming widow” – do explain.
secondly, i think having him give a toast is a great idea. otherwise, maybe put a shout out of appreciation to him in your programs or something?
Post # 13
Do you not want to go down the usher route because you want to make his role more special or unique?
Are you having candle lighters? Maybe he could do that….
Or, is there someone he could escort down the aisle?
Post # 14
gaming widow, LOL.
Sometimes I get the “mmmhmmm…mmmhmmm” while we’re on the phone, to which I go, “are you playing football with your friends?”
Guilty as charged =]
Post # 15
With N it’s ‘what website are you checking out’ or ‘what are you playing?’
By gaming widow, I mean that my guy spends a LOT of time playing Counter Strike, Left for Dead or some combination of other games that come along and get discarded. He has gaming headphones, Ventrillo happiness and a whole gaming community that he’s helped set up. I’ll see if I can find a Nick gaming picture for you… just for fun.In fact, they’re having the first meet and greet this month in Nashville. He’s nerdly excited. I think it’s absolutely adorable.
lol, at least from 1000 miles away. It might be slightly less so when I need help doing housework.
I think we decided B should be a groomsman. It gets cheesy, but he’s one of the guys that helped N through grad school and his postdoc – N doesn’t make friends very well (he’s kind of abrupt as a whole) and having B as an online friend definitely helped.
The priest doesn’t care if they aren’t Catholic – as long as the two of us are.
So, we’re good.
Post # 16
Haha. Gaming Widow. That’s great. I never thought of it that way before, and I am glad there are more of us out there. I’m glad you go it figured out!