(Closed) He cheated on me LAST WEEKEND

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so so sorry!  You deserve so much better than that!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

if you knew this would happen… why were you even with him in the first place??!?!?!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@christie.l:  It’s a saying, it’s being pessimistic and then optimistic and reverting back to pessimism.  She, the OP, is totally warranted in saying that.

Post # 8
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Newbee

So sorry.  Thoughts are with you.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I am so sorry!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my advice from someone who was cheated on by an ex-fiance – take some time to yourself and distance yourself from him so you can figure out what you want to do next.

dont talk to him until you know for sure what you want to do. then have the conversation.

if you talk to him, he can cloud your sanity. You need to decide what you want to do.

take a deep breath, and kick him out (if youre living wiht him) for the meantime and be by yourself. and definately DONT tell your friends until you know what you wan to do. they will also cloud your sanity.

good luck and {{HUGS}} I know exactly how you feel. its hard. very hard. *DEEP BREATH*

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

((((hugs))))  So sorry. At some point when you can think again, remind yourself that it is better now than after you are married, and that there are good guys out there. You shouldnt have to compromise and someday you will look at this as dodging a bullet.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I am so sorry 🙁

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh, dear. I want to beat him up for you. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  I agree, you need to kick him out and distance yourself from him until you decide what to do.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am so so so so so sorry that this happened to you! I have been following your posts on here and I know you’ve been excited for an engagement party and your registry and you’ve already been taking crap from your aunt. You poor thing, what a blow to you.

You have nothing to feel ashamed of, do you understand me? HE is the pathetic one, HE is the immature one, HE is the stupid one. I hate it when guys try to ~blame it on the alcohol~ – that is the lamest excuse for being a cheater I have ever heard.

What you need to do is try to get some sleep. You’ve been up for hours and hours, and if you don’t sleep, you’re going to make yourself physically ill with all this stress and extreme emotion. I’m serious, don’t think about anything you ‘have’ to do until you’ve allowed your body to rest and your mind to turn off for a while, as you’ve said. You can’t think clearly until you do.

All I will say for now is that at least this didn’t happen further along in the wedding plans or after you’d been married. But that’s the least of your problems – you’re upset and hurt NOW, and you need to be kind to yourself NOW. So please, stop beating yourself up for his mistakes, okay? Get some rest and please know you can post again or PM me for some support. <3

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry hun! I want to go beat him up also! That’s terrible and you’re were right to tell him the engagement is off. I’m so sorry you’ve been hurt, I can’t imagine how you feel but just know that there IS someone out there who won’t hurt you. I know it sucks now, but at least this didn’t happen after the wedding. You’re able to find out what a loser he is before you married him. It seems like a small thing now but it’s really a blessing in disguise. My heart goes out to you!

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