Post # 1
Hi ladies….. would like some words of wisdom after my day yesterday. SO and I have talked about marriage often. He will often start a conversation…. he will look at wedding songs and play them for me…. he said towards the end of last year that we will have done the deed in 18 months (taking us to early summer 2016). Yesterday, I was in work (office) and he was working from home. He took my daughter to school, then took me to work. I had a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to work mid morning. He denied it was him (but he likes to tease). Then he took me for lunch…. was all very lovely. He had then booked a table for us (and my daughter) for dinner that evening at a pub that we like but have never eaten there (the crown near abergavenny if anybody is interested!) SO asked me what I was wearing, then suggested I wear a dress…………. All of this to me indicated that something was brewing….. We had a lovely meal and nothing else happened……………… I was waiting, even my daughter said she thought something was going to happen, but no……. I really enjoyed the day and did feel very loved, but that elusive question was nowhere to be seen………… Any thoughts????
Post # 2
Maybe he was just being a romantic? Or couldn’t get up the nerve when it came down to it?
Sounds like he’s pretty sweet on you though, so I wouldn’t worry. 🙂
Post # 3
Looks like he is building to a surprise. when I was waiting I expected it with every dinner, anytime he went home from work before me, anything. In the end he used friends to distract me and proposed when I least expected it. I’m sure that’s what yours is doing too.
Post # 4
He is a sweet guy, my daughter adores him, I get on really well with his kids….. after 3.5 years together we are still cuddly and loving all the time.
Thats the trouble, I am almost expecting it with every occasion and find it hard to not think about it! I have written a post previously about our situation as it is complicated, so I know in my head, that it’s not going to happen for a while, but yet he makes me think that it is going to be sooner…..
Post # 5
Awww, he sounds like such a sweetheart. You know it’s coming. I’d say try to just enjoy the ride for now. He’s given you a timeline.
He sounds like a romantic guy who just likes to show you & your daughter that he loves you & wants to show you off as a family.
Post # 6
I think this is part of the issue with ‘waiting’. Take it for what it is, you obviously have a romantic which is great, enjoy it and when the time comes, you’ll enjoy that moment even more as you aren’t anticipating it every time he makes a nice gesture. He isn’t making you think it’s going to happen sooner, YOU are making you think it’s going to happen sooner. Sounds like you have a keeper. Enjoy him.
Post # 7
Thanks bees. I do enjoy our relationship, we have fun, and we both do stuff for each other.. Definately a keeper…… I guess I will try and distract myself with other plans…. he turns 40 in march so I’ve got weekend tickets to the British Grand Prix in July (not cheap!) but he loves F1, and will be stoked to go for a weekend and I’ve booked a weekend away in a little cottage with a hot tub for the weekend after his b’day………maybe he will have the urge to ask me then!!
Post # 8
Hi 🙂 Our situation sounds so similar- 3.5 years, kids on both sides, sweet affectionate guy but no ring yet! He does sound like he loves you sweetie, I think guys just don’t see things the same way we do- we build anticipation and hope into every event & they don’t even realize it. He could have been planning something and lost his nerve (in which case it will happen soon). Maybe he was worried if he did it when your daughter was present but not his own kids they might feel left out. Or maybe he simply planned something lovely because he’s that kind of guy 🙂
Several of us were just talking about this exact thing- special events that seem to be perfect engagement opportunities but no ring- in the SIUP, you should come join us in this thread as well 🙂
Post # 9
I think I will come and join you…………..