- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I LOVE sparkly, shiny things. LOVE THEM. But I was ashamed at the fact that diamonds are stupidly expensive and that owning one the size I hoped for was impossible. Moissanite was a dream come true for me. I spent so many nights salivating over rings on MoissaniteCo.com. I resolved that when the time came for us to ever talk about getting married, it would be safe to start hinting about what I wanted in a moissanite ring without scaring him off.
You wouldn’t believe how surprised I was when he got down on one knee, reached into his pocket and pulled out a diamond ring last month. I had no idea he was ready for marriage!!! Also, I couldn’t figure out how he could have possibly figured out my ring size or have gotten the courage to pick out a ring without ever asking me what I liked!!!
Above is a picture of my .45 carat stone .10carat on the sides, total .55 carat diamond engagement ring on a size 6 finger (it’s a little big, but I like it that way). Aaaaah, it’s so pretty!!!
In the aftermath of the engagement, I love my ring to death and spend around 1-2 hours ring-gazing each day, but I felt guilty that my tiny little piece of metal and stone cost so much. I still found myself looking at moissanite porn in secret, lol.
Last week, I contacted the jeweler where he bought the ring and asked if they would be able to buy back the diamond center stone from me and replace it with a moissanite. They said yes, and agreed that they would apply the difference in cost towards bands!!! Amazing!!!
Seems like an easy choice: on the one hand, I have a .45ct center diamond…on the other hand, I have a 1.25ct center moissanite AND the groom’s wedding band! No brainer to me.
So the very next day, I tried to figure out how to get my fiancee on board with swapping out the diamond for a much bigger moissanite without hurting his feelings. I let him know that I loved the fact that he surprised me with his proposal, but that because it was a surprise, I never had a chance to let him know I didn’t need an expensive diamond. I explained that it probably would have scared him off if I started dropping hints about rings so soon in our relationship (1.5 years). He seemed a little defensive at first, but then he adjusted to the fact that I didn’t need a diamond. He even brought up how when he was shopping for a ring, he kept feeling frustrated about how diamonds were needlessly expensive and did he really want to marry someone who found these shiny rocks important. So I think he was relieved that I finally assured him that had he asked for my opinion, I would have let him know we were on the same page with respect to how we feel about diamonds.
Then to seal the deal, I found the website diamondssuck.com and it had a really good argument for moissanite over diamonds, and I read the entire page aloud to him and we high-fived ourselves for beating the system.
I decided on a 1.25 ct Ring Bearer forever brilliant to replace my .45 ct diamond that our awesome jeweler is buying back from us. I do have to admit that when I went in to talk to the jeweler about swapping for a moissanite, there seemed to be some snootiness and judgement in their advisement, but I was set on what I wanted. They ordered it for me so that I could see it in person before deciding on the switch.
Yesterday, the moissanite came in and I went to take a look, and it’s beautiful. It’s being set right now and I’ll hopefully get it back before July 2! In the meantime, here is a PHOTOSHOP SIMULATION of how the ring will look with a 1.25 ct size center stone: