He disrespected me…again!!!

posted 3 weeks ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

You’re going to get the same answers as you’ve got on your previous posts.  Leave.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry, uh, he DOESNT cook? How did he survive before he met you? Does he not know how to heat up instant meals? Does he not know how to microwave? Or put something in the oven and take it out 15 mins later? What about take away or pizza?

I would’ve laughed in his face if he sent me a picture of groceries and if that was his way of saying “come home and cook for me” he would be waiting a long time. I don’t think it’s helping your dynamic that you left what you’re doing to rush home to cook for him.

I just can’t believe a grown man can’t feed himself in some way while his partner is out? 

And I don’t know what NY and concerts have to do with you being out… is he expecting to be staying in the kitchen and cook for him and clean every day? What era does he live in? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

While you were at drinks did you ask Lauren if they are sleeping together?

Post # 5
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550 posts
Busy bee

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. 

Please take the advice you were already given. This update is nothing new for you clearly- same shit, different day. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

sophierobbie :  

Dear OP , this is not an update or anything worthy of  a new thread is it ? It’s just more of the same . 

If you think this relationship is worth saving/working for ,the first thing you need to do is stop enabling his awful behaviour. For instance  running home  to shop and cook after being sent a picture of groceries as if you were a forgetful servant  ……. Are you crazy, OP.!!!

As a pp says , this deserved a laugh in the face at best , or a ‘puzzled’ response saying , is this meant for me, I don’t understand it . Or are  you telling  me you are doing  the grocery  shopping? 

 “we just got back from New York and I took you to a concert and now you’re having drinks. Then you bring me nasty food and you forgot the diet coke I asked you to buy for me”. 

 If you continue  to accept  this sort of crap ( you’ve  had enough treats for now, so get back to the kitchen ) it’s getting close to a sort of Masochism ….

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

He disrespects you because you allow it. He snaps his fingers and you drop what you’re doing and run to him, and if you even make him wait a little while he pouts about it. Nothing will get better until you realize this isn’t a normal, happy relationship and leave his sorry ass. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

So another normal day.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Your FH sounds like an entitled 12 year old. Hearing about him makes my skin crawl. What do you want from us?

Post # 11
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

This would all be big NOPE for me.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee

He came out for drinks with the two of you.  Which means he was exactly the same distance from the grocery store that you were. Why did he not get them himself? Or, buy dinner while at the bar/restaurant you were at. Or, on the way home from there, stop to get something?

Is he a child?

Did you feel obligated to pick up groceries as an “apology” for leaving the house?

Stop making meals for him. You both bring in an income. You don’t need to fly around the neighborhood, chew up worms and vomit them into his mouth so that he can eat. Are you the same person who was convinced her Darling Husband was cheating and wanted to record sound off her phone in her bathroom to hear “sex” sounds?

I think this relationship is doing a number on your mental health and skewing your boundaries of what a partner’s role is.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He disrespects you because you’re allowing him to. When you decide you’ve had enough, leave.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Wait what? I thought you were going to record the 2 of them having sex in the bathroom? Now you’re making him some creamy sausage pasta? That’s a disappointing turn of events..  

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Fool you once, shame on him.  Fool you…what…like 73 more times?  Shame on you.

So it was shit.  It’s still shit.  The answers will be the same.

You want to live a life where the best you’ll ever get is “not fighting for a month”.  So, this is what you get when you settle for that life.

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