He disrespected me…again!!!

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

sophierobbie :  When he sent you a photo of grocery shopping, you should have sent backa photo of your glass of wine.

Post # 32
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423 posts
Helper bee

If he texts you images of anything at all in the future, use this to reply:

 

Post # 34
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

chitownyogini :  

“Your FH sounds like an entitled 12 year old. Hearing about him makes my skin crawl. What do you want from us?”

OP wants someone to chime in and say he is not that bad, he can change, you can change him.  

OP:  If my husband took a picture of a grocery list or whatever it was to imply I needed to come home and cook I would do the following:

1) break his phone

2) find a new place to live and take all the food in the house with me when I leave

3) block him from my phone, my social media (if any) and ask my family/friends to do the same.

sophierobbie :  You have an asshole for a fiance – get out out now while you can.  He is a manipulator and is gaslighting you.  He will never change, you can only change your reactions to him.  I have been married for a year and a half, been together with him for six years and we have fought….oh never.  We have disagreements, yes, but yelling and fighting?  Nope.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

sollyb :  Dude Hahahaha actually what I was going to post. Isn’t that the tea we’re all here for?

Post # 36
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Newbee

He went grocery shopping after leaving, then sent you a photo of the groceries he bought. You knew this meant come home and cook but also stop at the grocery store he obviously just left to do more shopping? Another confusing scenario. I know this is crazy to hear (again) but you can just say no to him. If he asked you to come home and cook just say “No I’m staying to have a glass of wine.” I mean he just bought food he’s not going to starve. Did he even explicitly ask or did you receive a picture of groceries and just assume it meant do more shopping and cook? Does this happen a lot? 

Post # 37
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I agree with everyone.  I also want this nasty creamy sausage pasta recipe

Post # 38
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

He’s an asshole and is going to continue being an asshole for as long as you allow him to be an asshole.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

sophierobbie :  I mean this straight up:  Are you for real?  All this feedback on your fiance and you come back with a recipe?

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I’m sorry, but I had to lol at your title.  “Again!”  Of course “again.”  You thought he was just going to magically stop being the person he is?  He was going to suddenly be your dream man rather than th weird, controlling manchild he’s proven himself to be?  Lol no.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

 I’m so sorry. I don’t want to sound snarky. I’m usually not even sassy much. But if MY husband sent me a picture of groceries hinting for me to come home and cook for him because he’s too lazy to cook for himself? Lmao. I would ignore him and stay out until I was ready to come home.

Screw that passive aggressive crap. He can make a sandwich or a spaghetti or even turn on the stove to medium heat and toss some beef and onion on there to just brown it. Take it off the stove and put on sweet peppers or just broccoli or whatever veggie he likes and cook it for a bit and then re add and meat and then cook them together a bit. Cheap stir fryish item. Those are not hard. I was making all of those when I was much younger than him. 

Like others said. How did he survive before you? Surely he didn’t starve because he isn’t dead. You know what my husband does when I’m not feeling well enough to cook or I am out? He does what his father calls Dad Cooking and orders out. Or he will make a sandwich if we have the materials. 

Ugh. Again sorry if it sounds snarky but that is a crappy way to treat you 🙁

Post # 43
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10196 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

eeniebeans :  

What kind of calories are we looking at here?

Oh.  Wait.  I’m vegetarian.  

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

sophierobbie :  Ask yourself one simple question:  Would my life be better without him?  If you decide to stay (and no one here can figure out why you would) be prepared for a lifetime of this.  A LIFETIME of being verbally abused, harrassed and told everything is YOUR fault.  The rain, traffic and stock market falling will all be your fault.  Someday he will move into physical violence.  After he hits you he will say “Look what you made me do!”  

Give up your friends as they will tire of listening to you complain about him.  (They already are, by the way.)  Oh wait…..silly me…..he will demand you give up your friends because he is a controlling asshole.  Then he will accuse you of cheating when you stop off for a drink after work with girlfriends.   He will cheat on you but it is all your fault, ya know.  If you were better in bed or would lose those last ten pounds he would be more attracted to you.

Sound appealing?  If yes then go ahead and marry him.

Post # 45
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Busy bee

minnesotabride17 :  In OP’s update, she said he was full of shit and she’d gone to stay with family. 

Make leaving permanent, OP. Cook that delicious pasta concoction for people who will appreciate it. Dump his ungrateful manchild ass to the curb. 

 

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