He disrespected me…again!!!

posted 7 months ago in Emotional
Post # 91
Member
2696 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with PP’s. Your description of THESE events were off base. IF the other events are truly as bad as you say, then please don’t go back to him. This is a horrible relationship, and neither one of you is good for the other.

Post # 92
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

sophierobbie :  It scares me to think you aren’t even married yet and already having so many problems……really a scary thought. That’s all I’m gonna say.

Edit: Nevermind…..I see you supposedly broke up with him, if you did, good for you.

Post # 93
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10687 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Thank you, Bees, for that all important clarification.

OP’s hubby just had a hankerin for a salad and “lovely baguette”?  Ok.  Sure.

Post # 94
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5564 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

sassy411 :  OP’s hubby just had a hankerin for a salad and “lovely baguette”?  Ok.  Sure.

He already bought the ingredients for it, the point is it didn’t seem like the hint/demand to go shopping and cook as the OP suggested. 

Post # 95
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9828 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yes 100%. He forgot some ingredients and even appeared apologetic that he forgot them/got the wrong thing (based on use of emojis) and pretty much said “hey we can have this but I didn’t get enough burgers so we would need another pack if you want to do that. Or we could have spaghetti but the tomatoes I got aren’t the right size.”

I am putting it in much less lovely language than he used.

Anyway, my point is, lovely baguette is not usually a phrase used to convey “get home and cook my food, woman slave.”

 zzar45 :  

Post # 96
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617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

slomotion :  Well-said. The actual messsage seemed pretty sweet, tbh. That’s not to say that abusers are incapable of being lovey dovey, but we clearly missed a WHOLE MESS of context.

OP, this is not a healthy relationship for you or for your (ex?)fiance. Maybe now is an excellent time to do some reflection on what you want out of relationships going forward, what you’ll tolerate, and what you want communication to look like. As-is, it doesn’t seem like it’s working. I think there is plenty of blame to share in the end of this relationship, but that means you get tons of opportunities for growth in your next one!

Post # 97
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9828 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Also, why didn’t he just order a pizza?

Post # 98
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I’m disappointed because I was catching up on this post earlier this afternoon at the same time OP was deleting the screenshots. I went back to the previous page to catch up, and by the time I clicked next page, they were gone. Boo.

Also, I want a lovely baguette now.

Post # 99
Member
530 posts
Busy bee

He disrespects you bc you continue to allow it.

Nothing is going to change until you leave his sorry ass. If you don’t put your foot down, say enough’s enough how do you expect anything to change?! 

Post # 100
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331 posts
Helper bee

I couldn’t even finish reading the post. I’m sorry, but are we talking about a grown man or a baby here? You should know better, you diserve better. That’s all I have to say.

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