- 3 years ago
fredthebasil : Oh, my FI’s parents did their best to pitch a fit when they “found out” (it was never a secret) that we live together. Told us they could never step foot in our apartment again, were so heartbroken, we are living in sin, blah blah blah. The righteous indignation lasted a couple months before they quietly realized it wasn’t worth not having a relationship with us. If OP’s partner can’t weather a little bit of bullshit from his family when he makes his own choices then he’s not long-term material anyway.
npoliver : There is no positive explanation here for his demand for a “surprise.” Either he is playing games and stalling or he is genuinely prioritizing his ~*special man moment*~ ahead of your autonomy and happiness in this relationship. Both are totally shitty, and either way he knows he’s hurting your feelings but doesn’t care enough to do otherwise.
I wish I had a dollar for every time there was a Waiting thread about a nice traditional guy who knoooows he wants to marry the OP and talks good game but just has such a hard time making decisions! I could probably pay off my student loans and still take myself out for a nice dinner afterwards. Don’t let people piss on you and tell you it’s raining.