Post # 1
We are 5 weeks from the wedding. We are doing gifts on the day of because I love the idea of giving each other something before we meet at the end of the aisle. I told my fiance I want something sentimental, not expensive. He is at a loss for what to get me. I’m kind of disappointed but I want to give him suggestions. What else can I say to guide him?
My gift to him is several cigars to be smoked on various life milestones (wedding day, new house, etc.), a diary I’ve been keeping since we got engaged, and a card/love letter on a custom card that says “I have loved you for xxx days”….so I want something similar to that.
Post # 2
Doesn’t it take some of the sentiment away if you tell him what to get?
Maybe he can ask your friends… or google it for some inspiration.
Post # 3
Absolutely. But he’s all flustered about it so I want to throw him a bone.
Post # 4
If you need to give him ideas you can write a list of things that would work and then whatever he chooses will still sort of be a surprise?
Post # 5
I made a couple different of those types of cards and we each picked one to write in for each other for the note part.
For the gift part I was in a similar boat because you want them to be somewhat equitable in a fashion. So we discussed a little. Mostly what we discussed if how the groom to bride gift is almost always jewlery and how that is kind of awkward because then do you wear it? Is it a shun not to? But you probably already have all your accessories matching! So that was a concern for Us. Also the fact that I like more casual jewlery than expensive because I can wear it more and is more about the sentiment than the cost or fancy.
So he got me a more casual necklace which I love and can wear day to day or dress up. But not wedding day appropriate so there was no pressure there to wear it. I thought that was really nice. It’s a keepsake but not a tchoke and since it’s casual it’s for the sentiment not the cost.
Post # 6
I straight up told my husband what I wanted him to get me. I know that most of the guys he works with got their wives a diamond necklace or bracelet or some type of jewelry as their gift. At least this is what I understand to be the “standard.” I know you said you didn’t want something expensive, so you may not be looking for something like that, but if I had told my husband I wanted something other than jewelry or something “inexpensive,” he would have been thrown off and at that point confused. I would have probably been setting myself up for disappointment.
I told my husband that I wanted a dog for my wedding gifts. I had found the one I wanted, and it was a little more money than I had expected, and I said, you know what, I don’t need another piece of jewelry (I don’t wear much and he has already bought me a necklace for our dating anniversary gift that I wear all the time) but I really want this dog. I got exactly what I wanted, and regardless of whether I told him what to get me or not, people always say, “Awwwww” when he tells them that our puppy was his wedding gift to me.
I think at the least you could lead him in a direction. Give a few hints, something a little more than “not expensive” and then see what he comes up with. It’s still a surprise that way.
Post # 7
Maybe give him a website to use for inspiration? Tell him that he doesn’t have to get a gift from that list, but at least he’ll have examples.
Try this one: http://www.findgift.com/occasions/wedding/groom-to-bride/
Post # 8
I somehow got my husband using etsy and he has now purchased a couple of gifts for me there. For our wedding he got me a personalized ring box (with the wedding date inside the cover) and a personalized picture frame for me to put in my office at work (with our last name and the date). Maybe suggest etsy or a particular store you like.