Post # 1
Let me just start off by saying Fiance family absolutely hates the fact that we are together, let alone getting married! His father think’s im a “Hussey” and his mother has constantly called me the “devil” among other racist terms I will not get into. Which has lead to them telling the rest of the family (who had no problems with me to begin with) ton’s of crazy stories about how i roam around at night prostituting myself, sleeping around with other men, spending Fiance money on drugs and just other crazy crap! I wish I was trolling you guys…but this is ALL true.
Well I was putting together our guest list last night and I put down my family who will be attending, my friends and a few family friends. Which came out to about 56 out of 75 total people. I asked Fiance this morning who he wanted to put down and he just shook his head. I asked him what that meant and he said he isnt putting anyone down, that he doesn’t want to invite anyone from his family (all of our friends are mutual between us). Im kinda happy that they wont be there but at the same time I still feel like we should at least send them invites, to kinda show we care? I know his parents will probably rip them up and throw them out, but the rest of his other family might not. I dont know what to do! Should we just go ahead and not invite them? and add more friends to the list? Or should we go ahead and send them invites regardless of the outcome?
Post # 3
@MrsFerris: I have a similiar problem with my IL: they actually boycotted the wedding so I completely understand. I would suggest handing it how I am currently handling my IL: I leave it completley up to Darling Husband. If your Fiance wants to invite them then completley support that, if he doesnt, completely support that decision. Just have a heart to heart with him and let him know that while you appeicate that he is trying to save your feelings you really want/ and will support him doing whatever he wants to. Then leave the decision in his court 🙂 Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
If you Fiance doesn’t want to invite them, then you should respect his wishes and not invite them. You can invite more of your mutual friends. Your wedding should be a happy day for both of you, and from what you have stated, it would be more drama than it would be worth to try to deal with his family. You can always invite them later, if your Fiance changes his mind and/or things change between you and his family.
Post # 5
I think that it is entirely up to your Fiance. It is his family and if he doesn’t want to invite them, that is his choice.
Post # 6
If he says no, leave it alone. Clearly he knows more than you and is not anticpating a good result.
Post # 7
@MrsFerris: I haven’t read the PPs responses, but if your fiance doesn’t want them there I DEFINTELY wouldn’t invite them (if I were you). Calling you a prostitute to his family and saying you are doing drugs is waaaaaay beyond the acceptable line of IL drama. Don’t worry about it, they would probably ruin the wedding anyway, or trash talk about it afterward. Good luck