(Closed) He doesnt want a reception now. Kind of bummed.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could you do something for your families, or are they going to be at the wedding? 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Awwww maybe you could have a small one with your families?   I get his logic and more importantly I’m glad YOU get his logic.  But ..it would be nice to have a little something. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What if it was families only?

Have you ever tried to confront the people supposedly saying these things? If you confront them what do they say? Is there a chance it might not even be true?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I would be bummed too but maybe you could use the money for something really fun and nice!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Dump these “friends”. Seriously. And there is no rule saying that you have to invite them at all.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I’m sorry your “friends” are being asshats. That totally sucks. Maybe you can use the at-home recepotion money for a fantastic trip instead? Use it to make positive memories that will replace the negative vibes you are having to deal with right now.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

From your earlier posts it seems like you have other friends, just this new set that seem to be catty. 1) have you talked to Kim about it? Is she talking behind your back 2) why not have a reception and invite your family and other friends. I’s assuming your original reception idea wasnt to just invite these catty friends and only them

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Agreeing with everyone else – would a smaller reception maybe be preferable? Plus probably cheaper :3 Win-win IMO x

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are having a “lite” reception after the ceremony – light refreshments, punch, coffee and cake. That’s it! No dancing, etc. That will be over in 1 and 1/2 hours. Our REAL party is the next day – a huge casual pig roast with feasting, music, and dancing. Maybe you might consider something similar? Have cake and punch after the cermeony and have something more elaborate for family and REAL friends.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@badabing88:

It sounds like you both just need to breathe.  You could always do a family reception with maybe a couple of friends (not the ones who are rude).  There’s nothing wrong with doing no reception though if it’ll make you both happy.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I say just do a smaller reception and don’t invite the fake “friends.”

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@badabing88:  I fully agree with your Fiance. I wouldn’t spend a dime of my money hosting people like this for my wedding. Can u keep it to family only? When SO and I marry we will only be inviting immediate family and then treating them to the best food and drink money can buy afterwards.  Phoney friends will not be welcome. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with the idea of families and supportive friends only and have it be a bit more intimate. OR don’t do a reception and spend longer at your destination wedding/honeymoon.

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