Glad to hear you guys are making progress… and that he’s come to understand the symbolism / significance of E-Rings & W-Bands (particularly E-Rings for many women)
As for W-Bands for men…
I’ve known men in both camps. Those who wear em, and those that don’t
My first husband, wore one primarily because it was a HUGE DEAL for me (I was 23 when we got married). I really really needed him to wear a ring because I was sooo hung up on the symbolism. He wore it every day, but that didn’t make him a “good” husband.
My current Fiance (who has been married before) has made it very clear to me upfront that he isn’t a guy for rings / jewellery. So he’s told me he won’t be wearing a W-Band (he also can’t wear rings in his job)
Infact, he’s told me to save my money, and don’t bother getting him a ring at all…
Not 100% sure how I feel about that… as I do like the symbolism and the exchange of rings part of a Wedding Ceremony. But I certainly am not as hung up on the ring requirement as I was 20+ Years ago. Maturity has helped me to see what a “good marriage” is really about.
I am now considering other options.
1- We buy him a W-Band, and he only has it for the Ceremony… rest of the time it sits in a drawer somewhere… or maybe I wear it on a chain around my neck (does seem odd)
2- We buy one W-Band for me, but during the Ceremony we exchange it twice… I put it “partway” on his ring finger (as we clearly aren’t the same size), then he takes it off and puts it on my ring finger where it will LIVE.
This means we’ll have to adjust the ceremony… and ask the Officiant to do the Groom’s ring ceremony BEFORE the Bride’s but I don’t think they’ll be a problem with that
3- We just buy me a W-Band, and get him a Watch as his “token” element of exchange… (he likes watches) it still works with the symbolism as it has a metal band (unbroken circle) and what a better way to represent “from this day forward… and forever” than with a watch that marks time
4- We get watches for both of us… and incorporate that into the ceremony as well as a W-Band for me.
Hope this inspires you,
Lol… of course there is always the option of a “tattoo” Wedding Band… know some people like those nowadays (certainly gives new meaning to the word FOREVER)
PHOTO from another post here on WBee about Ring Tattoos