(Closed) He doesn't want a ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My girlfriends husband doesnt. Due to work related he cant wear Jewllery. But when he isnt working he will wear it because its a symbol of there marriage and commitment to one another.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My stepfather is a firefighter (well, recently retired one), and he didn’t wear his ring because of his job. Even now that he’s retired, he doesn’t wear it very often. He’s just not a jewelry type of guy.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Actually one of our friends has a tattoo instead of a ring. She has the traditional rings but he has a tattoo that looks like a ring. That’s an option! Also, maybe look on Etsy and find some non-traditional men’s wedding bands. There are some pretty cool options out there. Or you could give him a watch or necklace to wear instead.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My dad has one, but rarely wore it.  He worked as a mechanic for many years.  I am not sure if this goes into the reasoning, but years later I still don’t think he wears it.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I actually cant think of someone I am close to that doesnt wear a wedding ring. I know some people who dont wear it to work, but they wear it at night or on the weekends.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Growing up, literally none of the men who I was around on a routine basis (dad, grandpa, neighbors, friends dads) wore wedding rings, so when I started seeing men wear rings I thought it was really strange!  I wanted my Darling Husband to have a ring to get married with and as a token, but I told him right off that I didn’t care if he wore it all the time (his dad didn’t wear his ring either).  Both of our parents are happily married in 40+ year marriages, so I don’t think it phases either of us.  He wears it now (we’ve only been married a few months), but I’m not sure if he’ll continue to all the time.  I don’t mind either way though.  I understand why some women are more sensitive about it though, so I think it really depends on the couple.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I know lots of guys who don’t wear rings for different reasons. I support them, it’s their choice. I do have to admit that I’d be a teensy bit sad if my husband didn’t want to wear one, but it wouldn’t bug me that much. I can definitely understand the guys who think it’s uncomfortable. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Glad to hear you guys are making progress… and that he’s come to understand the symbolism / significance of E-Rings & W-Bands (particularly E-Rings for many women)

As for W-Bands for men…

I’ve known men in both camps.  Those who wear em, and those that don’t

My first husband, wore one primarily because it was a HUGE DEAL for me (I was 23 when we got married).  I really really needed him to wear a ring because I was sooo hung up on the symbolism.  He wore it every day, but that didn’t make him a “good” husband.

My current Fiance (who has been married before) has made it very clear to me upfront that he isn’t a guy for rings / jewellery.  So he’s told me he won’t be wearing a W-Band (he also can’t wear rings in his job)

Infact, he’s told me to save my money, and don’t bother getting him a ring at all…

Not 100% sure how I feel about that… as I do like the symbolism and the exchange of rings part of a Wedding Ceremony.  But I certainly am not as hung up on the ring requirement as I was 20+ Years ago.  Maturity has helped me to see what a “good marriage” is really about.

I am now considering other options.

1- We buy him a W-Band, and he only has it for the Ceremony… rest of the time it sits in a drawer somewhere… or maybe I wear it on a chain around my neck (does seem odd)

2- We buy one W-Band for me, but during the Ceremony we exchange it twice… I put it “partway” on his ring finger (as we clearly aren’t the same size), then he takes it off and puts it on my ring finger where it will LIVE.

This means we’ll have to adjust the ceremony… and ask the Officiant to do the Groom’s ring ceremony BEFORE the Bride’s but I don’t think they’ll be a problem with that

3- We just buy me a W-Band, and get him a Watch as his “token” element of exchange… (he likes watches) it still works with the symbolism as it has a metal band (unbroken circle) and what a better way to represent “from this day forward… and forever” than with a watch that marks time

4- We get watches for both of us… and incorporate that into the ceremony as well as a W-Band for me.

Hope this inspires you,

Lol… of course there is always the option of a “tattoo” Wedding Band… know some people like those nowadays (certainly gives new meaning to the word FOREVER)

PHOTO from another post here on WBee about Ring Tattoos

 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

My future hubs won’t wear a ring when he’s at work or doing physical work for the same reason, but is still planning on wearing a ring at home and when we go out. Maybe ask him if he’d be okay with that?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think my dad got one when he got married 30+ yrs ago but i have never seen him wear it.

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My husband doesn’t wear his ring because of work. He does wear it nights and weekends though.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I seond the tattoo ring idea. Darling Husband was thinking about it because he keeps losing his rings!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We purchased an affordable Tungsten ring for the ceremony and my fiance may wear it occasionally, but on an everyday basis I highly doubt he will wear his band. I am alright with that, beacuse my grandfather doesn’t wear a ring either.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If I have to wear one, then so does he! I’m not much of a jewelry person, so I would understand not wearing a ring for work related reasons, but otherwise it’s a symbol to the world of your commitment to one another, if there is no work related reason, why does he not want to wear it? It’s just odd to me.

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