(Closed) He doesn't want a ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Ring tattoos are horrible ideas, because they won’t last. They will rub and the design will spread and it’s just not a good idea in general. If you want to get it, don’t get something that wraps all the way around your finger, because that skin doesn’t age well holding tattoo ink, and your design will bleed.

My Fiance will wear a ring, because his dad always wore a ring, and he says he likes the way it looks. However, he works with mechanical things, and I know he probably won’t be wearing his ring all the time during work, because I don’t want him to lose his finger. I have no issues with this. I’m still trying to figure out a way for him to hold his ring when he doesn’t want to wear it, as he doesn’t wear necklaces. I’m thinking something for his watch.

Post # 18
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1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance wasnt really sold on getting one either, mainly due to work(hes an Advance Life Support Medic) but I wanted him to have one. I made him a deal that I didnt expect him to wear it to work and he didnt have to wear it all the time at home(although I’d like him too) but if we were going out together I wanted him to wear it.

He agreed and is even a little excited about getting one now. I found a tungsten ring on pinterest with the Superman logo on it(hes a superman fanatic) and suggested he get it as a joke but he really liked the idea haha. He plans to get one thats is a bit more subtle then the one I found. I’m just happy he found something he likes an will wear =)

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine can’t because of work, but he says he will outside of work. I can see him being the kind of guy who hATES the feelings of something on his fingers though, as he has never worn jewellry in his life lol

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My step-dad and my dad both don’t wear wedding bands, so it’s not that unusual to me, but have you guys considered something like this;

http://store.saferingz.com/

A friend of a friend is a pretty avid climber so he got one of these and  he loves it!

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know it’s a personal opinion, but I can’t imagine my husband not owning a wedding band at all.  He will sometimes take it off and leave it at home when he is doing outside activities (sports, yardwork, etc).  Maybe mention to your SO that it would mean a lot to you if he had a ring, even if he can’t wear it all the time?

My husband never worn any jewelry before we got married, so I wasn’t sure how he would like wearing a ring.  He ended up loving it, though, and now always says he feels weird when it isn’t on.

Wedding bands can be pretty inexpensive (if he chooses something simple), so maybe just tell him it would mean a lot to you if he had one to use during the ceremony, and that way he would have one that is meaningful (since it was used in the wedding) that he can wear when he wants or for special occasions.

Post # 22
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@nambi_pambi: My dad never worse his, but my mom always wore hers. It didn’t phase me as I kid, but it bothers me now. He was a great dad and husband, and he worked a lot with his hands… but I can’t even remember him wearing it ever 😮 It sat in a box.

My Fiance wears an engagement ring and will wear a wedding band. He wanted to. He works in the ocean, so when he’s doing that he doesn’t wear it, but he does the rest of the time. I think I’d be hurt if he didn’t.

 

Post # 23
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, you can get a men’s wedding band for pretty cheap.  It could be something that he wears on “date nights,” holidays, etc!  It would definitely be nice for the wedding ceremony and for those special occasions.

Post # 24
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My DH is wearing one.  He wanted a plain gold band so that’s what I got him.  It’s the one thing I would have insisted on anyway.  I even got it in a size that he can’t get off…it’s not too tight but he can’t get it over his knuckle without a lot of work.  I’m not very traditional but I believe in wearing wedding rings.

My father worked as a brakeman on a train and then was a carptenter.  He only took his ring off once and that’s when he was in an accident and it had to be taken off.  They thought they were going to have to cut it off because it had bent to his finger.  He never took it off his finger again until he died. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

The vast majority of the married men I work with do not wear rings because in our industry it’s a serious hazard, and there are a fair few guys who no longer have ring fingers to remind the others why they don’t wear them. 

My husband works in a similar industry, but not in those high hazard areas, but he still doesn’t like wearing a ring.  So, we compromise; he wears it at home, and when we go out, but not to work. 

Post # 26
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622 posts
Busy bee

My dad doesn’t wear one because of an almost accident in high school involving his finger getting stuck in a machine and the ring cut his finger open.

Post # 27
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Fiance doesn’t want one. He doesn’t like jewelry at all, and he won’t be able to wear it at work due to his profession. He said from the beginning that he just wants to get one tattooed on, but I still found a ring that I think is totally him…so I bought it. He said he’ll give it a trial run, and it wasn’t hugely expensive if he doesn’t end up liking it, so I’m ok with that.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My dad has been wearing his wedding band so long, it won’t come off his finger!

My SO can’t wear his on deployment because of “degloving” injuries…let’s just say…don’t Google that shit. BUT! He is very excited about wearing one when he returns! 🙂

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My husband doesn’t wear a ring. Ever lol. He doesn’t own one!  Same story with Prince William so I suppose I can say they have something in common?

Honestly it was just never anything that bothered me. I suppose it was surprising that he had such a strong opinion on it, but hey, it’s his body and I don’t want to demand he do something that makes him physically uncomfortable (this being his reason for not wanting to have one).  He tells anyone who will listen that he’s married to me so I’m not worried lol

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper

Neither of us wear wedding rings. We both don’t like wearing jewellery and I would never tell another person that they had to wear something they weren’t comfortable with wearing. Not wearing a ring doesn’t make a person any less married than someone who does.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Torrid:  lol I have seen those pics…gruesome! If you really want to get grossed out though, they have degloved penis pics (there are some weird things people do that cause THAT injury)

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