(Closed) He doesn't want a ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A tatoo would be neat! My father is a surgeon and after having to dig through medical waste a few times he stopped wearing it. It never upset my mother (who is also in the medical field) but she always chose to wear hers because, naturally, “it was just so shiny.” Is it a huge deal to you that he doesn’t wear it?

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@bearlove:  Oh sick! I believe it though. I saw on a medical show once that a guy got his dick caught in a portable grill…you know the holes in the back where you hook up the gas? Yeah, he was drunk and put his junk in there and it got stuck. People are idiots. Stay away from my vagina, kitchenware!

Post # 34
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

plus I am now terrified (but morbidly curious) to google degloving….my Fiance is behind me motiong NO

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My fiance is the exact opposite. He says he wants to wear a band during our engagement. Keeps cracking me up…but he says he wants to show ppl that he is committed to marrying me as well. Its kinda cute. 

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ohhhh, I totally feel for you. I have the same problem. Well, actually, I don’t see it as a problem now as I have come to terms with it (I’m sounding a little dramatic!). My fiancé told me before we were even engaged that he would never wear a ring. I thought he would come around and didn’t worry to much but once we were engaged, he brought it up again stating adamantly that he will never wear a ring. He HATES jewelry with a passion (on men) and even though I tired to tell him it’s not the same as wearing a necklace or he is not convinced.  I asked if he would get one for the ceremony but he says no, it’s a waste of money.

The reaction i have had when I tell people is very interesting. I have had girls tell me they would refuse to marry their other halves if they refused to wear a ring!!! Lots of people saying that he “obviously doesn’t want people to know he is married!” (basically accusing my fiance of wanting to have an affair! Because obviously, rings cant come off or anything!).  The older generation seem ok as not many men wore them back in the day (my dad doesn’t and neither did his dad).  I told him I wasn’t going to wear one either but once I saw the pretty diamonds, I changed my mind!Wink 

 

Basically, it took me a while to be ok with it. I trust him expliciently so that’s not an issue. We also talked about giving him a watch because my officiant said that if he doesn’t get a ring, once he says “I give you this ring….etc” I then have to reply “I accept your ring”. Which I thought sounded ridiculous but never mind. Just be ok with it and be confident  when people look at your in complete shock!! Makes me laugh now when that happens. Good luck x

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve never known a married man who didn’t wear one. My engineer grandad wore his hos whole working life without incident, my Navy father, my medical uncles, my welder father in law. The thought of not wearing one never occured to Fiance, he’s very tradition based and believes “it’s just what you DO, it’s proper” he finds rings feel odd so he practiced wearing it, now he’s happy. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@nambi_pambi:  yeah I know tons who don’t. It’s fairly common in the UK. Most of my husbands friends do not but mine does. It was important to me that he wore one. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For as much talk as there is on this forum about the diamond marketing scheme, I’m surprised more hasn’t been said about men’s wedding bands. 

Wedding rings for men is a very recent tradition.  There was a HUGE marketing push by the jewelry industry for men’s wedding bands after the Great Depression which lead to nearly 80% of all ceremony’s including a ring for both the man and the woman as opposed to just 15% prior to the GD.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Neither of my parents wear their wedding rings. My mom’s set was a beautiful antique e-ring and a plain band that she couldn’t wear during her pregnancies. I don’t know if it’s because her fngers weren’t the same size or raising 3 kids and being an art teacher was too messy but I don’t remember her ever putting it back on. Honestly the last time I saw it, I was a child. My father wore his up until about 15 years ago when he went swimming in the lake at our cottage and it slipped off. My SO works with his hands and expects that he’ll wear his band on a chain around his neck when he’s at work and will try to  remember to put it on his finger when he leaves.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My dad has never worn one, but he’s a contractor. Generally, I think men should due to what it shows society and the symbolism of marriage. Can’t he just take it off when he goes fishing?

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