(Closed) He doesnt want me to wear the ring ..yet…

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Umm… that seems silly to me.  Darling Husband and I work together as well, and it really wasn’t a distraction at all.  Really, the most anybody ever said to him was “Congrats, buddy”.  Now, times that by the number of people you work iwth, and that should give you the grand total of how much time making people aware of your engagement will take him.  Now, with me people wanted to chat a little more, but that’s your issue to solve ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I think that an unreasonable request for him to make.  I would not go along with this, and would be angry that he suggested it in the first place.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t like it very much. Maybe if you were waiting to share the news with family or something you could go without – but seriously.  It would excite people for about 10 minutes.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People at work really don’t care that much.  I barely even told anyone when I got engaged.  I don’t think you have anything to worry about.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Huh? People get engaged and married every day. You’re supposed to pretend you’re not? That’s stupid.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe he could just wait to propose to you until things settle down at work for him? That way you’re not tempted to wear it, and he also gets a chance to get his head on straight at work – let’s face it, if you’ve been given a new job, the last thing you want is everyone talking to you about other stuff when you’re trying to focus on your new duties.

He might be overreacting though – my fiance and I work for the same organisation (different areas, though), and when we got engaged, there was maybe a week of fairly brief congratulations, then it was all over. But we both work in a very relaxed workplace – I’ve been in other workplaces where someone getting engaged basically puts everything else at work on hold while everyone makes a big deal of.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I personally wouldn’t bring up anything until he offically proposes. Let him do it on his own time. I doubt he’s going to expect you not to wear it after that, the propsal just might be coming later than you hoped.

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