- 8 years ago
…and it’s killing me. I was so excited when I found out, but ever since then he has been anti-baby. Not that he didnt want one ever, just the timing is not perfect. With the wedding and the new house, he feels like its not the right time. He has asked me to consider all options (yes, even that option).
He has made me so mad because he assumed that since we said we would wait to have kids, that we wouldnt have kids until then. I assumed that since we werent using any kind of protection that he knew and would be ready when we would end up on this road. Both of us spent too much time assuming and not communicating which lead to this issue. When he wanted me to consider my “options”, he said that I wouldnt go through it alone, but I knew at the end of the day I would because he wouldnt have to carry that burden for the rest of his life. I went to talk to his mom, a single mother, for advice and she advised me to also consider my “options”.
Now that I have told him I was going to keep the baby, he keeps saying “its whatever”. He hasnt told any of his family that we’re having a baby, and he’s so mad at me because he says I am rushing things, that I am not making a tough situation any easier, and that if I really thought it through, I wouldnt want to have the baby.
I love him very much and I dont want to lose our relationship, but I dont want to force this baby on him either. He doesnt want me to raise the baby alone, but I cant help but feel like he will resent me and the baby forever.
Please help me bees…