(Closed) He doesn't want to wear a wedding ring…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband cannot wear his wedding ring all the time. He is an Aircrewman in the Navy and he has to put it away often. He also doesn’t wear it when he is working with his hands (I do not wear mine when doing the same. If I have to scrub the floors or dig a hole or cook, it comes off), and I am okay with it.

So, ultimately my husband will probably wear his wedding ring a few hours a week if I’m lucky. It mostly sits in his pocket, or on his dog tags (hidden in his flight suit), so I know how you feel.

Mostly, I’m glad he doesn’t want to lose it — maybe yours is the same way? He doesn’t want to hurt it, lose it, or otherwise break it. Maybe that’s the way to look at it?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@RiverBride13:  What does he do for an occupation?  If he does something where it could pose a hazard (i.e. carpentry) I would be okay with it.  If not I think it would upset me but not so much that I would force him either.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not sure if my fiance will wear his. He said he will try to get used to it and he WANTS to wear it, but he was being honest with me when he said he may not ever get used to wearing jewelery. 

I’m okay with it, mainly because jewelery just isn’t his thing. Plus he works with his hands a lot at work and at home, so it may just end up being cumbersome.

Not wearing the ring would never make me question his committment or make me wonder “does he want to appear single?” I trust him 100%. He’s never worn a ring in the 4.5 years we’ve been together and he’s always been faithful. I don’t think that will change once we get married.

But of course if he did wear it, I’d be thrilled. I think a guy with a wedding ring is sexy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@RiverBride13:  Neither FH nor I wear much jewlery, in fact the e-ring is the only piece I wear regularly. It took me a long time to get used to it. I don’t wear it at home, in the shower, to teh gym, doing yardwork. 

Perhaps that would be a good compromise, he can wear it socially, to nice dinners, to work, etc but doesn’t have to wear weekends or at home?

Neither of my parents ever wore their rings so I guess I don’t see this as a big deal.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My fiance does not wear anything but a watch. He will wear his wedding band the day of he wedding, after that only for special occasions. And I’m 100% ok with it. Don’t worry your not alone, lots of men hate wearing jewelry.

Post # 8
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance is up in the air about it. I would like him to have one for the ring exchange and for fancy occasions or something but I understand with his hobbies and work that having a ring could be dangerous. We’re talking losing a finger or hand here!

Post # 9
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Worker bee

My Fiance won’t be able to wear his ring to work since he is an Air Force pilot, so who knows he if will actually wear it at other times. I’m not too concerned if he doesnt wear it or not. We are thinking about getting tattoos on our ring fingers something small and not our names, maybe just a symbol. He only owns watches and his dog tags, so I just have a feeling men arent that into it..who knows maybe it will grow on them??

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Fiance won’t be wearing one, were buying a cheap one for the day of the wedding but after that i suspect he will never wear it again but I expected that. He has very large thick hands and finds rings uncomfortable it really doesn’t bother me, I think I would be more suprised if he was planning to wear one all the time.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

A lot of older British men don’t wear wedding rings, mainly because it wasn’t really traditional.

And a lot of my (yes, I have them) male aristocratic friends who are married don’t wear them either.

I think a lot of them see jewelry as a feminine thing – such as having an overly blingly watch is also considered bad taste amongst the upper classes.

 

But moving location to continental Europe, I think the men here like jewelry and watches (expensive but understated ones). My Fiance had no intention of wearing his band permanently and I was OK with it, but he put it on and it got stuck! And now he’s used to it … oh By The Way it’s common that the men here wear a ring on a ring finger before they get married.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t be bothered about it either.  There is that pesky little thing called a marriage certificate no matter what he puts on his body 🙂

Post # 13
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@deetroitwhat:  Totally agree, and it’s not like a ring is a guarantee of fidelity either.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My husband swore upsidedown and sideways that he would NEVER wear a wedding band….. and now he feels weird when he doesn’t. I don’t know what changed his mind, but you may be surprised what actually happens.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ms_Midori:  Yeah, my husband is the total opposite.. if I take off my engagement ring he FREAKS.  I’m like you do know the wedding band means we’re married right????

AND THAT WE HAVE THAT PIECE OF PAPER THAT MEANS YOU’RE LEGALLY MY PIECE OF ASS.

Men.

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