I just don’t feel right about forcing him to wear it if he doesn’t want to.
This is a free country and he is an adult … You can’t force him to do anything. However, you can nicely let him know that this is important to you and that it is going to bother you if he doesn’t wear it.
My DH also did not want to wear a ring at first. He said he doesn’t like wearing jewelry, he didn’t want the feeling of a metal ring on his bare hand, he thought a ring would be uncomfortable, he was concerned that he would scratch it or ruin it while doing yard work or working with tools, etc. etc.
I tried to be sensitive to his feelings, but I also explained to him that it was important to me because the ring is a symbol of our commitment to each other. I told him I didn’t care if it got scratched — I would have it buffed at the jewelers. He countered that there was no need for him to wear a band because I don’t have to worry about him cheating on me. So I explained that I wasn’t worried about him cheating, but that it would bother me if other women looked at him and saw him as available, OR if they wondered what kind of marriage we have because he’s not wearing a wedding band.
After I explained it that way, he could see that this was something that was extremely important to me, and he agreed. We found a slim “comfort band” style, had it sized properly, and now he wears it at all times and never complains.
If he had resisted, I probably would have had a hard time dropping the subject. I wouldn’t have pressured him, but I probably would have whined and dropped a lot of annoying hints, LOL. If he’d had really strong feelings on the subject and absolutely, positively refused to wear a ring, I guess I would have had to make peace with that, but I’m glad I didn’t have to.
I think it’s OK to push a little bit on this subject. It’s a wedding ring, not a pair of handcuffs. Some guys act like a ring is going to get in the way or bother them or that it will be uncomfortable. I think they have been spoiled because they don’t have to wear bras or tampons like we do, LOL. Yes, it will feel different to have a ring on your finger vs. bare flesh, but that’s life. We are not nudists. We have to wear shoes and underwear and sunglasses, too.