(Closed) He ended it but told me to keep the ring…what do I do??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@navywifenmoore:  I had a similar experience with my ex.  Apparently the 35 lbs I gained from a med switch made me un-lovable.  He told me to keep the ring.  Away in a jewelry box it sat for almost 6 years.  In that time I met the man of my dreams, my soul mate and best friend.  We traded it in when we bought my engagement ring which was very helpful price wise.  My fiance and his ex broke up and she gave the ring back to him.  He held on to it.  He asked me if I wanted to pawn it and I took it apart.  Used the two round stones in new earrings and the sapphire center stone is in a box until I figure out what to do with it and I traded in the gold.  Its really whatever you feel comfortable with.

Post # 18
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@navywifenmoore:  lots of hugs*** I know exactly how ur feeling. My fiancé and I considering calling off our engagement too. Too difficult to even say it…I been crying my eyes out. I wouldnt be able to keep the ring and he has insisted that I should if we break up. I would most likely mail it to his house in a little box. Or maybe selling in. I just wouldnt be able to look at it without reminding me of our relationship…

Post # 19
10357 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

He broke up with you, thus you get to keep the ring. I would sell it!

Post # 20
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry to hear that this happened to you. I would agree that you have no duty to give it back to him. I would agree with trying to sell it or trade it in. It’s not easy to get the full price you paid for an engagement ring, because jewelers have such a high mark up on them, so be prepared for that.

The decision to have children or not is not something you can compromise on, and it’s a good thing that he realized that he can’t change your mind about that before you got married. From your other posts on here it sounds like you have experienced a lot of trauma surrounding pregnancy and I would strongly recommend working with a counselor or a support group that deals with this sort of grief regardless of if you ever decide you want children. This is a politically neutral support site that you might find helpful: http://www.afterabortion.com/

Post # 21
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You could try: http://www.idonowidont.com, I think that’s it. There’s also another site specifically designed for girls to sell jewlery from exs.

Just realize you probably will not get even 1/2 of what your ex paid for it. I’m not trying to be negative, but my parents were jewlers and since he got it from a chain store he paid a high mark up. My engagement ring from my ex-husband from Zale’s was $7K, when I went to sell it back after we decided to get a divorce they offered me the price of only the gold… $150. 

If you don’t want to reset it and you know you don’t mind not getting top dollar back, then I say sell it and do something that will cheer you up and bring you happiness.

I’m sorry about what happened, life really sucks sometimes.

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